(Closed) No ring proposal/engagement

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 47
    72 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    🙂 if its super important to you to have a ring and cost is a huge factor… FYI you would still be engaged without a ring!

    Ebay, Amazon or Overstock are great places to look! Just use common sense with ebay :)! Always read the reviews on all the sites.

    $40.00 http://www.ebay.com/itm/ViVi-H-A-Signity-Star-Diamond-Ring-8440a-/400311489408?pt=US_Fine_Rings&var=&hash=item5d346c9380


    $89.99 http://www.amazon.com/Sterling-Silver-Diamond-Promise-Engagement/dp/B004YM83KO/ref=sr_1_11?s=jewelry&ie=UTF8&qid=1358452838&sr=1-11&keywords=diamond+engagement+ring

    $42.99 http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/Miadora-Sterling-Silver-Created-White-Sapphire-Swirl-Ring/6964812/product.html

    That last ring is really stunning! 

    Post # 48
    4943 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @LemonyItch:  Yes, a person is engaged if asked/accepted, regardless of whether there is a ring or not.

    And if your family knows that he put up a lot of $ to move y’all, then I have a hard time believing they’d make faces and comments about you not having a ring yet. If they did, then they are people I wouldn’t want to be around, personally.

    I know it’s probably disappointing to not have one, but you’ll get one at some point, right? Get a stand-in for now, and save for the “real” one. Berricle has some really nice ones.

    By The Way, I was proposed to without a ring.

    Post # 49
    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @Chrysoberyl:  I don’t know. It’s just strange that they feel that way and yet not one of 27 people commented as to why. Who knows? I still think it’s a legitimate, special occasion, ring or no ring. 🙂

    Post # 50
    4950 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I think it’s a person-by-person or couple-by-couple thing. My FH didn’t consider us engaged until there was a ring on my finger, even though we had already planned an approximate time for our wedding, and he had asked me to marry him I don’t know how many times. 

    But if a couple decides they’re engaged without a ring, then they’re engaged. No one can tell them they’re not. 

    Post # 51
    2093 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Rings to me, indicate seriousness. I was “engaged” ten years ago, planning the wedding, etc. he called it off twice. Came home one day & said he couldn’t marry me. Found out yr later he had been cheating on me. And guess what? She got a ring mere months later & he married her. 

    Since then…no ring, no engagement. I don’t play that game. 

    Post # 52
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I don’t think you need a ring to be engaged! Being engaged is about getting married, that you have decided to spend the rest of your lives together. A ring just simply tells everyone “Hey, I’m getting married!” My parents got engaged without a ring. They were together for so long they just sat down and decided to get married and started planning a wedding. A little while later, my dad did surprise her with a ring. He walked by a pawn shop and saw it and knew it was perfect for her. BUT my mom never wanted/needed/asked/expected for a ring. I think the ring is a personal choice. Look at how many poeple are married and don’t wear a ring. My dad is one of them, he hasn’t been able to fit his on his giant hands in probably 30 years, but they are still married! I think a stand in ring is also a fine idea. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that!

    Post # 53
    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2019 - City, State

    You can definitely be engaged without a ring, IMO! It’s just a symbol. You can use a cheap ring for now or get a ring later or both. I agree with you, the pupster is definitely more important!

    Post # 54
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I was engaged for 7 months without a ring. I also told FH that a ring wasn’t important. We were looking at buying a house, FH/s truck needed pricey repairs and we just felt that we could wait to buy a ring. I bought a stand in from Berricle because I did really want a ring on my finger and eventually we ordered my moissanite. 

    There’s nothing wrong with you wanting a ring, but a stand in may make you feel better until you can spend the money on something more permenant. Berricle is good and their rings are of good quality, Amazon, Overstock and ebay are good too. 

    ETA: I also don’t think you have to have a ring to be engaged. When my aunt and uncle got married, he proposed to her with a necklace. And my grandmother never got an engagement ring. A ring doesn’t make an engagement any more real. 

    Post # 55
    1784 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Anyone who says someone else can’t be engaged without a ring is an idiot.  That’s something you can decide for yourself, but you can’t decide for another person.  If a couple says they’re engaged, they’re engaged.  The end.

    I’m currently engaged without a ring.  We’re going ring shopping in about three weeks.

    Post # 56
    295 posts
    Helper bee

    Why don’t you get a small plain band for now and add the big bling later?

    Post # 57
    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I think an engagement is totally legit with or without a ring. However, the very first thing people did after I said I was engaged was grab my hand. I know I wouldn’t be able to handle explaining the decision to not have a ring to people over and over, so if that would bother you then I’d consider getting a stand-in.

    Post # 58
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    You don’t have to have a ring to be engaged. An engagement is a new step in a relationship that officially states that you will be getting married! That is something that is between you and your significant other, and if you are engaged, then that’s all that matters.

    That being said, be prepared for others to not see your engagement as official. I have seen several couples who just decide they are engaged one day for the sake of it (usually without a ring), but never begin planning a wedding or anything. In that situation, I don’t believe an engagement is legit. BUT if you are engaged and you’re planning a wedding, I think it is legit with or without a ring.

    Post # 60
    2552 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    All my international friends (non American) have gotten married without an engagement ring. In fact, I think the concept of proposals and engagements is something pretty anglo.


    If it is that important to you, I’d pick a cute cheap ring from Target or wherever else and wear it on my ring finger for now.

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