(Closed) NO RSVP, NO DINNER!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I have a checkoff list at the reception for guest that RSVP'd?
    Yes, they complied to the request : (4 votes)
    3 %
    No, that is tacky : (75 votes)
    58 %
    NO RSVP, NO DINNER!!! : (25 votes)
    19 %
    Just enjoy your day, everything will work itself out!!! : (26 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m confused…. Are people responding and writing in guests? RSVPs aren’t being returned?

    Post # 4
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    777 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Why would your guestlist double to 150? Did you invite only single persons? I think it would be extremely tacky if you had someone checking names and RSVPs at the wedding. They are likely bringing you a gift. I really doubt you’ll run out of food.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @mrshodges2013:  You could always ‘track down’ the guests who dont RSVP back, before you submit your final count. In fact a lot of bees do this. Iknow i will. 🙂

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @jpalm13:  I’m confused too… 

    As @trixiesrockets:  said, just contact the people that didn’t RSVP. You’ll have more that do than don’t.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Are you worried about people who will RSVP “No” but still come? Or people who will not RSVP at all?

     

    If you’re worried about people who won’t bother to RSVP at all, I think the standard thing to do is get ahold of people who didn’t RSVP by to deadline and find out if they are coming, which should alleviate most of your concerns. Most likely there won’ tbe anyone who you can’t get ahold of, or at worst maybe one or two people.

    I agree with PP that as a guest I would be incredibly put off if someone was standing at the door to your wedding checking off names. It seems super tacky to me

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @mrshodges2013:  if people don’t RSVP, call them and find out is they are coming. It’s what we all do 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    On my RSVP card, I have a line under the Yes/No stating “No. of Attending ____”

     

    If they put more than the number invited, I call them and explain that I’m sorry that I cannot accomodate their extra additions.  That only John Smith and Jane Smith are invited.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @mrshodges2013:  Gotcha. If you send them out and someone sends back an RSVP with a guest, you call and apologize for the confusion but seating is limited and you cannot accommodate guests. If they don’t send them back, phone calls/texts/facebook. Caterers will usually cook for 10 extra meals just in case.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    The ___ seats reserved in your honor helps too

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