Post # 1
When do most people send in their no responses? Do people tend to to wait until the last minute more if they are responding no? We have had about half of our guests reply and only 5 (out of 217 invited) have sent a no response!!! We invited enough people where if just about everybody came we would have a very packed room….we figured 10-15% would say no making it more comfortable. I am getting nervous that we are going to get a lot more yeses than expected.
Post # 3
We only had around 80 people at our wedding, which translated to around 30 total invitations sent to various individuals, couples, and families. I think we had around 8 parties not attending our wedding, many being from out of state, and only 2 or 3 of those actually followed ettiquette and sent RSVPs back to let us know. We had to follow up with the other 6 parties to find out they weren’t coming.
I think sometimes people feel bad saying ‘no,’ and assume that the hosts will not count them in final numbers. My mom used to be this way, and during our wedding planning, I think she started to understand that not sending an RSVP does not equal “no!”
Another thing is that I know a couple of parties held out hope that they’d be able to afford the trip, so waited until the last minute to even decide yes or no.
In our experience, most all of the “no” responses waited until the month before our wedding to send RSVPs back- and we sent our invites out pretty early, probably 3 months before the wedding.
Post # 4
Don’t sweat it! We haven’t sent out our invites yet, but I have a lot of friends that were in your situation and were very worried when all the yes responses started to roll in! All of them found that people who definitely were coming were quick to send back their responses….and the no rsvps came in more toward the deadline. It all worked out for all of them! I hope that helps to calm your fears a little bit! Good luck, and keep us posted! 🙂
Post # 5
We are getting most of our no’s toward the end now – but we felt the same way you did for a while! Don’t worry – you’ll be fine.
Post # 6
My wedding is also September 12 and for the first two weeks we got 3-4 RSVP’s a day and it was a good combo of yes and no. The last three days we’ve gotten nothing. I am so ready to know already so I can (a) confirm that our budget is okay and (b) start doing seating arrangements, place settings, table numbers, etc. I’m sure you’ll get some no’s–I think they do tend to wait until the end.
Post # 7
Out of our 290 guests, we also were getting more of our no’s towards the end of the deadline. I think it varies. I got a bit in the beginning and then it just stopped a few days. When I sent a reminder email, that is when I had more traffic.
Post # 8
My wedding is Sept 12 too (HOLLA!) and of the 40-50 RSVPs Ive gotten, only 1 has been a no. Dont stress, the no’s either dont come (and you have to call) or they come at the end 🙂
Post # 9
This is like an impossible battle to fight. I wonder if it’s cultural? I’m Asian and Fiance is American, so we have a good mix of guests composed of friends and family. I would think my side of the family won’t know what to do with the RSVPs, and some of them actually didn’t because we included space to check their entree options and most didn’t see. However, a bunch of FI’s relatives have not responded, And for some, when we tried to email them about their RSVP or for their entree or to provide the name of a guest that wasn’t even invited in the first place (I’m talking about plus ones here…), they won’t even respond!!!