(Closed) No Save the Dates for semi-destination wedding?? Am I crazy?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
9781 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Mbs08:  I’m also having the same situation with my “domestic destination” wedding but I am definitely sending STDs- and early ones at that because my month is popular. 

I think more warning for plane trips the better, unless you’re secretly hoping for a low RSVP rate? If not I say just send the STDs- simple as a cheap postcard!

Post # 3
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mbs08:  I would at least send a email. But a STD post card would be better. 

Post # 4
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would send a save the date. It doesn’t have to be fancy. I’ve seen a few that are simple and great for “destination” weddings.

If I were flying somewhere for a wedding, i’d want at least 6 months notice. You have to buy your tickets a couple months early and you may still be penny pinching after the holidays around feb/march so it will give people enough time to decide if they need to budget for it or not. It’s a $50-$100 expense that will possibly give more people the chance to come. 

Post # 5
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Mbs08:  You can get relatively inexpensive postcard Save-The-Date Cards on sites like Vistaprint. Or you could send an email. You have plenty of time, what is the reason for not wanting to send them?

Post # 6
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013


Mbs08:  Why not send an emai lsave the date? That’s what we did for our destination wedding

Post # 7
11068 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Mbs08: I agree with the PPs, I think you should send something so people can prepare and have plenty of warning to be able to make arrangements i.e. kennel care for dogs 

Post # 10
2180 posts
Buzzing bee

Mbs08:  I don’t think this is a matter of etiquette, for me it’s a matter of practicality. As a guest, I would like to receive some sort of save the date in this situation, well in advance so 6 months ahead of the wedding, so that I could make the proper arrangements to be there. The couple that most recently got married to whose wedding I was invited to did this and I really appreciated it. If they had just sent invites, I feel like it would have put undue stress on me as a guest to get everthing in order to attend their wedding at the last minute.

Post # 11
2698 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Mbs08:  I am in the same situation as you… only idfference is I live in the destination city and everyone can drive (avbout 5 hrs away).. what we did is sent our the invite to our wedding website as the save the date and we followed up to make sure everyone checked it

I think it’s doable personally but then again I’m only having 70 people (mostly very close)

Post # 13
2180 posts
Buzzing bee

Mbs08:  Hmm, well I don’t think it would have been a problem for me and in that case I don’t think Save-The-Date Cards are necessary, but I think I’ve seen Bees get concerned that guests will misplace the invite if it’s sent so far out. 

Post # 14
2436 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am getting married next August and have just sent out my save the dates this week. Early, I know. But I have a lot of family that are flying in from out of state and the rest of the guests have to drive 2 hours. Mostly everyone will be staying the night and my family requested that I send out save the dates now so they can make travel arrangements. I wouldn’t have sent them out so soon, but they all asked for it. So I think your guests will need to know further ahead than just a few months- flights get more expensive the longer you wait.

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