(Closed) No Save the Dates for semi-destination wedding?? Am I crazy?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
9488 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Mbs08:  I’m also having the same situation with my “domestic destination” wedding but I am definitely sending STDs- and early ones at that because my month is popular. 

I think more warning for plane trips the better, unless you’re secretly hoping for a low RSVP rate? If not I say just send the STDs- simple as a cheap postcard!

Post # 3
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mbs08:  I would at least send a email. But a STD post card would be better. 

Post # 4
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would send a save the date. It doesn’t have to be fancy. I’ve seen a few that are simple and great for “destination” weddings.

If I were flying somewhere for a wedding, i’d want at least 6 months notice. You have to buy your tickets a couple months early and you may still be penny pinching after the holidays around feb/march so it will give people enough time to decide if they need to budget for it or not. It’s a $50-$100 expense that will possibly give more people the chance to come. 

Post # 5
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Mbs08:  You can get relatively inexpensive postcard STDs on sites like Vistaprint. Or you could send an email. You have plenty of time, what is the reason for not wanting to send them?

Post # 6
5245 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013


Mbs08:  Why not send an emai lsave the date? That’s what we did for our destination wedding

Post # 7
11328 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Mbs08: I agree with the PPs, I think you should send something so people can prepare and have plenty of warning to be able to make arrangements i.e. kennel care for dogs 

Post # 10
2184 posts
Buzzing bee

Mbs08:  I don’t think this is a matter of etiquette, for me it’s a matter of practicality. As a guest, I would like to receive some sort of save the date in this situation, well in advance so 6 months ahead of the wedding, so that I could make the proper arrangements to be there. The couple that most recently got married to whose wedding I was invited to did this and I really appreciated it. If they had just sent invites, I feel like it would have put undue stress on me as a guest to get everthing in order to attend their wedding at the last minute.

Post # 11
2726 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Mbs08:  I am in the same situation as you… only idfference is I live in the destination city and everyone can drive (avbout 5 hrs away).. what we did is sent our the invite to our wedding website as the save the date and we followed up to make sure everyone checked it

I think it’s doable personally but then again I’m only having 70 people (mostly very close)

Post # 13
2184 posts
Buzzing bee

Mbs08:  Hmm, well I don’t think it would have been a problem for me and in that case I don’t think STDs are necessary, but I think I’ve seen Bees get concerned that guests will misplace the invite if it’s sent so far out. 

Post # 14
2350 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am getting married next August and have just sent out my save the dates this week. Early, I know. But I have a lot of family that are flying in from out of state and the rest of the guests have to drive 2 hours. Mostly everyone will be staying the night and my family requested that I send out save the dates now so they can make travel arrangements. I wouldn’t have sent them out so soon, but they all asked for it. So I think your guests will need to know further ahead than just a few months- flights get more expensive the longer you wait.

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