(Closed) No Seating at ceremony

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

So are you only offering a few chairs for the elderly and everyone else has to stand?

I would rethink this. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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missy1jack :  I would have a seat for all guest so that they will not be confused on who should sit in the chairs and who should sit down. Is it even necessary to have the sign take a seat not a side if you don’t have seats for people to sit in. I think as a host you should have a seat for everyone to sit in comfortably for the ceremony no matter how shor the ceremony may be. If you are not providing seats them guest should be made aware ahead of time the ceremony is standing only so they can wear comfortable shoes.  You can have an arrow or some yard sign to show guest or point the in the right direct of the ceremony. Maybe an arrow with ceremony on it pointing in the direction of the ceremony. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Hire a coordinator to set up and take down the chairs. You need to provide seating for all your guests, not just the few for the elderly.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

This is so rude and inconsiderate for your guests. Hire someone to set them up. I’m sure you can find some college kids who would do it, or pay the chair company to do so. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Surely you or someone in your family knows a high school kid willing to make a quick 20 bucks.

For the record, my least favorite ceremony was standing only on the banks of a river.  Guests arrive early so even if you claim your ceremony is only gonna be 10-15 minutes, your guests are standing around for closer to 45 minutes most likely (in this particular case the ceremony did not start on time).  People spread out more because they can’t see and don’t like invading others’ personal space if it can be helped.  Spreading out more means not being able to hear the ceremony, especially over the ambient noise of rushing river water and birds (unless you have a sound system you are setting up).

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

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missy1jack :  I’m confused? Are you having seating for everyone or not and if you are not having seating for everyone why do you need a sign? Is it just to tell people not to sit there unless they are above xyz age? What about guests that have invisible conditions where standing is an issue? Or conditions, like pregnancy, that can make standing uncomfortable?

Unless you are having an actual 5 minute ceremony then I think you should rethink this. Because even a 20min ceremony means 40+ minutes of standing for guests.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

What do you want the sign to say if it can’t say ‘take a seat’?

I think the main problem with no seats is actually the view rather than the uncomfortable aspect.  Everyone behind the first row will have a restricted view and it’ll probably add to the awkwardness. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

Hire someone to deal with the chairs and have a seat for every guest. Standing ceremonies just plain suck and while nobody would likely complain to you your guests will complain. You don’t want your cocktail hour/reception to begin with a lot of cranky, annoyed guests. What may be a 15 minute ceremony for you is 45 minutes standing in the grass in the sun for your guests.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

You need seats. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I attended a wedding with no chairs once.  I barely paid attention to the ceremony because I was thinking about how I couldn’t see over the taller people in front of me, how my feet weren’t comfortable standing in one place like that, and wondering why the B&G skimped so badly on something so basic.  

Some people have ailments or disabilities you may not know about but are horribly uncomfortable standing for any length of time.  Having chairs for the elderly is great, but what about Aunt Sally with the bad back, or cousin Susie with a painful knee injury?  Who makes the decision if their ailment is “bad enough” to warrant a chair at your ceremony?

Hire someone to set up chairs and take them down.  Not having chairs is poor form. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I agree with PPs and say rent chairs and find a couple of people willing to set them up (not your guests, either paid vendors or high school/college kids).

I went to a wedding where there was no seats. I, along with a lot of the other guests from my observation, were uncomfortably shifting for the whole ceremony. I really found it hard to pay attention because I was just wondering when it would be over so I could sit. 

Not the biggest deal in the world, but not ideal for your guests.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Yeah, sorry, it’s pretty unpleasant to go to a wedding with no seats.  I did once when I was in my late 20s, in great shape (running half marathons etc), and it was still annoying to have to stand there uncomfortably the whole time.  I wanted to focus on the actual ceremony of my good friends, but I was focusing on shifting back and forth and my feet being a little sore, etc. 

You don’t want that to be how your loved ones remember your ceremony, right?  Wondering when it will be over already so they can sit down…

Now, I’m 35 weeks pregnant and no way in hell would I stand for a wedding.  I would plop down in front and sprawl out on the ground like a giant harbor seal.  Which might not be the look you’re going for!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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missy1jack :  you need seats. If you won’t get them, tell guests, so they can bring their own folding chairs.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

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zzar45 :  What do you want the sign to say if it can’t say ‘take a seat’?

Maybe something like:

“Since our ceremony will be short and sweet

Don’t you dare take a fucking seat

Unless you’re old”

(I’m not good with poetry)

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