(Closed) No Seating at ceremony

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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missy1jack :  Can you provide a little more detail on the ceremony? Is this a traditional style ceremony? Are you and a wedding party walking down the aisle? Is there a reception at a secondary location or at the same location? 

I’ve attended a no/limited seating wedding before and it was fantastic. BUT it was not a traditional wedding. There was no bridal party procession and it was a short ceremony and then right into a elegant cocktail party reception. It fit the very romatic setting on the roof top of an opera house. There were tables for eating, cocktail tables for standing, and comfy all couches around the roof top. It doesn’t sound like this is what you are doing. 

What is the ceremony like? Traditional?

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper

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missy1jack :  So hire some helpers or have the chair rental company (do not ask your friends/family/guests) put up and take down the chairs on the day of the wedding. People do it all the time. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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missy1jack :  You can hire people to do that for you, which is what I would do. I wouldn’t make people stand, PP make good points that it’s not comfortable and no one will be able to see/pay attention if they are the first few standing in front. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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missy1jack :  what’s confusing? You will have to set up and take down the chairs. Do you have relatives or friends willing to take on this task for you? If not, you will have to hire someone to do it. Does the venue offer anyone for hire for that type of thing?

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa

We had to set up (150) chairs ourselves – the groomsmen did it the morning of before they got dressed, it did take a couple hours to get them all lined up correctly. The chair company picked them up afterwords but you could have some friends or hire a couple kids to quickly do that? I would suggest seats if at all possible unless you’re having a super short ceremony?

If not, maybe … “Our ceremony will be short and sweet, so forgo a seat, please stand and celebrate with us.” and then just have a reserved sign on the seats and let those people who will need them know they’re welcome to them ahead of time.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

There’s no cutesy way to say “don’t sit down.” You want to tell people what to do, not what not to do. The arch/alter/whatever you have set up will tell people where the ceremony will be. 

Assuming who does and does not have disabilities might not be the best plan. Which is what you’re doing by dictating who gets a chair. 

Its fine to have a outdoor non-seated event. But if that’s what you do it needs to be announced as such and expect appropriate clothing for such. You wouldn’t expect people to wear hiking clothes to a ball. You shouldn’t expect people to wear formal wear to an outdoor standing/walking event. Pants and tennis shoes are appropriate for outdoor walks. If this is the type of event you are holding and announcing it as such, no problem. 

If however you want a more formal event, then you need chairs. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m going to say it. If you can’t be bothered to give me a seat, I’m going to leave.

What about the people with back, hip, feet, clotting issues that need to sit? It’s never as short as you think it will be

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

I’ve actually been to a couple of weddings where there was little to no seating and it didn’t bother me and no one said anything. However, they were very brief ceremonies AND I’m able bodied and only wear shoes I can walk in – so I don’t know about everyone. 

Most people will be happier with chairs if you can get them though. You can either get a DOC to do it, or in some situations the caterer will do it. We had the same chairs for the ceremony as the reception so we set them up for the ceremony and the caterers moved them for the reception. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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missy1jack :  Is there a procession of a wedding party? If so, you need to pay someone to set up chairs. With a procession the ceremony is not 15 minutes. Also, guest will arrive ~ 15-30 minutes prior to the start? That’s 30-45+ minutes of just standing looking at a river? =) 

We all understand the stress of wedding planning. There are details to every venue that needs to be decided on before placing a deposit. You knew this was one and chose this venue. The venue we chose did no set up as well. I rented the venue for the day before the wedding for myself and family to set up. I do get it. Paying someone to set up and tear down the chairs is needed here. 

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