Post # 31
I’ve been to several weddings where the venue didn’t set up chairs. A couple of them where I was a close friend or family member, we showed up early and helped set up at the request of the couple (and were happy to do so). One of them, they hired some local high school kids to do it.
It does suck to have to deal with this stuff. It’s why wedding planning is either expensive, or a stressful! Either you pay for someone else to deal with it, or you have to deal with it yourself. But you can’t just skip it, unfortunately.
Post # 33
Even if I like to live dangerously and only arrive 5 minutes early, that’s a 20 minute walk. (Standing is actually more physically stressful than walking.) I wouldn’t wear formal wear to go on a 20 minute walk.
Post # 34
I went to a no seating wedding in a park and it worked OK. Wasn’t super classy looking in my opinion. What about renting a few benches? That would be less work
Post # 35
I’ve been to several weddings without formal seating, and my recent wedding didn’t have formal seating. However, it was a very casual ceremony and there were barstools scattered around for people to sit in if they wanted to (one of my friends was 7 months pregnant). The key to making it comfortable for everyone was it was a short ceremony (less than 15 minutes, including me walking down the “aisle”) and people weren’t formally dressed. Also, there was room for people to spread out and still be able to see the ceremony (it was on a yacht; pre-ceremony, ceremony, and reception were in the same spot). If you can keep it short and sweet and have chairs available for those who need it, it might not be an issue.
Post # 37
there is absolutely nothing whatsoever confusing about this. you rent some chairs, and either pay the chair company or a wedding coordinator to set up and take the chairs down again.
Post # 38
The last wedding we went to they had some chairs set up but not enough for everyone and while it was fine, it did end up being a bit awkward as no one wanted to be the person taking a chair, so about 1/4 of the seats were empty while there was a super unevenly dispersed crowd standing behind them. It was not a big deal, but personally I would rather see my guests all sitting comfortably and not shifting about on their feet while half the seats are empty. It looks weird AF for photos as well if that is something you care about.
Post # 39
If you are set on doing this, make sure you spread it via word of mouth so people can plan accordling with their shoes. I went in 3.5 inch heels to a wedding and their “15 minute ceremony” turned into over an hour. Then they had no seating during dinner because it was a fun whimsical cocktail type party.
Post # 40
If nothing else, you can probably pay a college student or high school student to set up and take down the chairs. Maybe a local church youth group or a local high school sports team/band? Seems likle those are groups always trying to fundraise for trips, uniforms, etc. Or the chair rental company might be able to do it for an additional fee. (These are the costs and logistics you have to assume when you pick a venue.)
But here’s another vote for “you need to have a chair for every behind”, not just the elderly. Many disabilities are invisible. Sometimes people who look young and healthy are not able to stand, and if they take one of the precious few chairs you’ve mentally reserved for the elderly, these younger folks are going to be getting a lot of stink-eye.
And remember as well, the ceremony may be only 15 minutes, but guests are going to arrive early to ensure they’re not late, so this will add 30-45 minutes to the amount of time they’ll be standing.
Post # 41
I went to a wedding with no ceremony or cocktail hour seating. I didn’t love it, but they kept the ceremony to 8 min, so it was ok.
Post # 42
Honestly, standing in 4” heels for 20 minutes sounds like a nightmare.
Post # 43
look, it is your wedding and you know the crowd.
Maybe it is more common in your area. It is not where i currently live, but my hometown it was pretty common to have standing and only seating for elderly.
But if you can swing it, i would much rather have seating as a guest. I find it odd that the venue wont set up/ take down for an additional fee. If hiring someone is not an option, Do you have a couple young nephews attending that you can task them with this? Cousins?
Post # 44
Have a chair for everyone. Pay someone to put them up and take them down. Do not have “cute” signs with terrible verses for anything whatsoever.
Post # 45
I empathize with chairs being difficult, but there’s no way you should do this without them. You’ve gotten a lot of great suggestions on who to hire to take care of this for you and I highly recommend you take that advice. The extra fee for setup and take down for our rental chairs sucked but we had to do it.