Post # 46
ive been to a few weddings that have had no seating in either the ceremony or the reception. If you must cut cost on seating id choose the ceremony. Nothing was worse going to a 100+ guest wedding reception and learning you were gonna be standing for all of it, including for dinner.
id much rather stand for 15-20 minutes then for a few hours. but id also take into account the size of the wedding, if its super small, fine. But anything over 20 people, id reconsider the standing thing.
but ill agree with others, the actual ceremony may be 20 minutes top, but think about the fact that most guest like to show up 20-30 minutes early possibly.
Post # 47
I think everyone else has it just about covered. People will arrive early, not only the elderly may have trouble standing in one place for fifteen minutes, especially in heels. It is much easier to walk a mile than stand still. I’ve witnessed multiple fainting incidents in bridal parties. Many people have invisible disabilities. Etc.
Everyone needs a seat.
Post # 48
Thank you! I’ve only been to a couple weddings were it was a standing ceremony. It was short and sweet. But, I am going to ask my nephews 🙂
Post # 49
Hire people to do the chair logistics for you. You will need chairs!! Anything else is very rude and in poor taste.
Post # 50
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
Standing on grass for 15 mins in heels sounds really uncomfortable, and most people will arrive 15-20 mins early, so people will be standing for a minimum of 30-40 minutes. I would see if you can rent chairs and have family members (like your nephews, as you mentioned) or maybe the groomsmen set them out for you. It’s your wedding and you can have no seats if you really want to but it’s not ideal. People have many physical ailments that you don’t know about and they wont be dressed appropriately for standing for a while unless you warn them ahead of time.
Post # 51
I went to a non-seated wedding once, too. And it has officially gone down in my book of what not to do…ever. I was so uncomfortable standing for the ceremony in my heels on the grass with everyone crowding around trying to see…it was just….bizarre. And it showed in the pictures (no one smiling, no particular organization). I was not aware there would be no seats, either. But in the future, if I am invited to an event where no seats are specified, I’ll be going to just the reception. As long as there’s seats.
Post # 52
Hire someone to set up the chairs. Making guests stand is a pretty terrible thing to do- it is SO SO rude.
Post # 53
post of the day award goes to you! I am crying laughing
Post # 54
Don’t put your guests to work either.
Post # 56
We just attended a super casual wedding by the lake, and there was no seating – it worked out just fine. They said to wear comfy casual clothing, short ceremony followed by a reception. They gave info on a few sights at the location to get a drink, sit and people watch, etc until the ceremony to let people know they didn’t need to get there forever early and wait. They made it clear in the invite to arrive at 4:30, ceremony at 4:45, en route to the reception by 5. When the officiant started, they asked everyone to scoot in closer and overall it was very warm, loving – friends and family gathering to celebrate.
If it’s a short, casual ceremony I think it can work. But don’t do any decorating, signs etc – if you’re putting work into that stuff you can put work into seating, IMO.
Post # 57
I did not have seating at my wedding except for the elderly. I think if you do something creative and different it can be fun and unique but you can’t have a long ceremony because of it. We had all of our guests line the aisle and then once I walked we had everyone stand around us in a circle and surround us with their love and well wishes. We also had the entire crowd pronounce us as husband and wife. It was really wonderful and made for some really amazing photos. But again our ceremony was 15ish minutes so it wasn’t a terrible commitment to ask of them. We had no sign but instead a few friends we designated as ushers who helped get everyone in place. It is your day. Do what you want and make it special to you!
Post # 58
We were almost going to do the same and only offer seats to the elderly or other people in need, but decided against it. The ceremony could go on for half an hour. A lot of women will be wearing uncomfortable heels and men in full suits.
Post # 59
I was just at an outdoor wedding by the water (sounds very similar to yours!) with no seating, except for the immediate (and older) family members. This was fine, nobody complained, we all loved it.
Post # 60
No no no no no no no MASSIVE ERROR