Post # 1
Hello moms to be! I am 12 weeks today and if I read one more article or email that mentions the AMAZING SEX pregnant people are having I might scream. Since I found out my sex drive has been nonexistent. I don’t want to be touched, looked at or anything else. My body hasn’t changed that much so it’s not really self conscious as just an overall feeling of ick. I know it has to be hormonal/really lacking because I haven’t had the need to self-pleasure either (sorry if Too Much Information but sometimes I just neef to get the job done).
Can anybody else make me feel normal? Or just feel sorry for me? Anything? 🙁
Post # 2
Me. I’m pretty body conscious as well as concerned about uterine contractions since I’ve been having Braxton Hicks for a few weeks now. I make it a goal to do something with DH at least once a week since I feel bad about putting him through a dry spell. I’m 22 weeks and hoping that sex drive improves, or at least the constant worry goes away so we can enjoy some quality time together before he gets here.
Don’t worry! You’re normal. I will say sex in the end of the first tri/first few weeks of the 2nd tri was pretty awesome. Everything’s a lot more sensitive…so do it anyways :).
Post # 3
I’m 13 weeks and know exactly how you feel!! Poor DH… We went from 4 weeks to 12 weeks with nada and I felt really bad! And I, too, didn’t feel the desire to masterbate (which I did maybe once a week before getting pregnant in addition to being intimate with DH). I’m still not super frisky, but I’m able to “take one for the team” these days. I’m desperately hoping things ramp up over the next few weeks. We’re not a super horny couple but I’d like us to be intimate more than just once a month/ every 2 months! Just know you’re not alone 🙂
Post # 4
I had no drive whatsoever in my first and second trimesters. It increased a little in my third but not much.
Post # 5
I’m 6 months post partum and it hasn’t gotten any better!!!! Wahhhh!
Post # 6
Thank you all so much for making me feel like a normal human! It’s a relief to know that I’m not alone.
Post # 7
It’s actually more normal to have no sex drive than to have a crazy high one during pregnancy. It’s also normal for it to stay away if you’re breastfeeding. Think of it in evolutionary terms, you’re already pregnant or have no need to get pregnant again (to make sure your infant is able to survive- milk goes away if you get pregnant) so it makes sense you probably don’t have much of one.
Post # 8
So normal – I am 16w and my drive just came back! I am sure it will ebb and flow throughout this pregnancy!
Post # 9
I kept waiting for it to get better in the 2nd tri, but it’s stayed the same. The discomfort hasn’t helped the libido – although that has improved slightly. I’m slightly envious of the “amazing” drive some women have in the 2nd tri – it just didn’t happen over here.
Post # 10
I feel you. I’m in my 3rd trimester and I haven’t wanted sex since early in the first trimester. I actually don’t want to be touched at all right now. My husband hasn’t pressured me at all but I did have sex with him recently thinking if I could just start I’d get in the mood but the entire time I was miserable and I made us stop. My poor husband. I hope I get my sex drive back after LO comes.
Post # 11
*raises hand* I’ve had no sex drive whatsoever. But when I tried for DH’s sake, sex was so uncomfortable-to-painful for me that DH noticed and lost all interest too! He said there’s no point if I’m not enjoying myself… bless him.
I hope things will get better after baby arrives, but my friend who has a three-month-old says it got worse for her, eek!
Post # 12
When I was pregnant with my son, I had a pretty crazy sex drive right until the end. When I was pregnant with my daughter, if my husband so much looked at me I wanted to hit him. We might have had sex 3 times the entire pregnancy – was NOT in the mood. I found out a lot of my friends who had girls had NO sex drive, compared to those carrying boys! Weird right?!
Post # 13
So true! I think if Ryan Gosling walked into my house and tried to ravage me I would just think “Ughhhhh reallllllly?” Crazy ass hormones.
Post # 14
I am only seven weeks pregnant but I’ve noticed a steep decline in sex drive, too! Before getting pregnant I used to get frustrated with DH because he really only requires a good session once a week. Now I’m super thankful that he doesn’t want more! lol! I haven’t told him that I don’t enjoy sex as much anymore, I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I hope that I’ll have more of a desire for sex once the first trimester nausea and exhaustion dissipate. I feel really sick and weak all of the time 🙁
Post # 15
My sex drive started dying pretty early on in my pregnancy and continued until it completely flat lined about 25 weeks. A mixture of feeling huge, being anemic and all sorts of hormonal changes I imagine. Luckily, Fiance totally understood (I actually think he found pregnancy sex a bit weird so was grateful for the excuse!)
When we did do it it was great, in some ways more pleasurable but the desire to initiate wasn’t there.
Now I’m almost 3 weeks postpartum and sex drive is back up and firing though I’ve got a few weeks until I’m letting anyone near there!!