Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
Just thought this would be fun to find out. FI and I live together. We’ve decided to forgo (try to anyway!) sexy time for the 2 remaining months before we get married. Has anyone else who lives together done or attempted to do something like this? How did it go? Not really sure what forum to post this to so I posted to 30-something since I’m 30! Lol
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Post # 3
Lol, I’m with swonderful. I don’t think that FI and I will be doing the pre-wedding, self-imposed, sexy-times starvation BUT I know of people who have. Usually during a short engagement. My cousin did this and I suppose it went fine. They got married, and started their family shortly after.
Post # 4
The only thing I’m trying to limit is some alcohol consumption and overall carb intake. Sex is definitely NOT off limits.
Post # 5
rosegoldgirl: I’ve never attempted something like this (2 months is a long time lol!), but I wish you the best of luck 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
swonderful: LOL! I know it sounds like an awful lot of stress to put myself through. I honestly don’t have an answer. I just thought it would make the wedding night extra ravenous!
LilRhodyGem: we are cutting carbs and alcohol too! From the sounds of it, I might turn into a nun before this is all said and done!
housebee: thanks for the well wishes! I’m not sure how long we will hold out!
Post # 7
As someone who regularly goes without sex (my husband deploys), and I can only speak from my own personal experience, but I would try very hard to not be disappointed if it isn’t “ravenous” like you’re hoping for. But couple in a wedding where you’ll both be pretty tired, I’d try not to set yourself up for something to be disappointed in.<br /><br />Hopefully it works for you. I’m in the “Why?” camp just as everyone else.
Post # 8
We did (9mnths)! There is nothing more beautiful than discovering that your relationship Ia more than sex . You realize that just having one another is enough you love one another as is that’s pure and true love its beyond “sex” (which is LUST nothing to do with love)
Post # 9
I can comment on this (if you take a look back in my post history you’ll see a thread or two regarding it).
Both SO and I are in our early -mid 30’s also and have been sexless since Nov/Dec. 2013. Let me tell you, its NOT easy in the beginning, but honestly, its gotten much easier this past month or two. Not bc we don’t want it but bc the fun of “dating” has kicked back in… we’re more playful with one another, more teasing, flirting, communication (shocking!), spiritual growth… and just overall fundamental basics.
Trust me, I was NOT happy about the idea. I had the mindset that we’re both adults, previously married, who were we kidding about not sleeping together etc etc… trust me, I argued EVERY point but for us, ultimately, it was a faith-based conviction that lead our decision. Truth be told, I CANNOT WAIT until Nov. 2014 when we’re married but until then, its doable… just try it!
Post # 10
rosegoldgirl: My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and we have not slept together! When we first met we both made the decision to wait til marriage! I wantrd something to look forward to and something pure And Special. Were not virgins and it’s NOT EASY but we made that “pact”… let’s just say I CANT WAIT for September 6th
Post # 11
I couldn’t imagine something like this being ‘fun’ but to each their own.
We’ve made a pact to eat less carbs, drink less beer, and diligently run our 5ks. Not having sex sounds like a nightmare.
Post # 12
We were each others first, and we decided to stop setting together in May of this year, until Christmas Eve of 2015! That’s a year and a half..it’s going good so far. But then again we don’t live together so I imagine it would be much harder then. I definitely agree it’s gonna be special to kinda rehave that special feeling on the wedding night!
Post # 13
rosegoldgirl: We didn’t take sex off the table at all, but I just had to comment on your statement that “it would make the wedding night extra ravenous”. DH and I did it 3 times after getting back to our suite after the reception… it must have been a mix of adrenaline, and the new-found joy of finally being his Mrs.! LOL!
Post # 14
LilRhodyGem: hahaha so classic
Post # 15
The less sex I have, the less I want. I would be very careful with assuming 2 mths of forgoing will just build the sexual tension. It might , but it might fall very flat.
Why deny yourselves something that increases closeness, burns a few calories, gives pleasure and is free?