(Closed) No Sex On Honeymoon?

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
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Worker bee

roses1400:  It sounds like your bored of sex? Why not practice something new and surprise him on the honeymoon? Take a day break (if possible) for some you time without being tired. Personally If i was struggling to find time to be intimate and on my honeymoon, I would seriously wonder what sex in the future would be like and if we were both happy with it. Kids would have a major impact, career etc the honeymoon is to relax and enjoy. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

roses1400:  even if you’ve been in a relationship and living together for a long time, after the wedding will still be special and exciting. We had gotten into a bit of a rut during the stress of wedding planning, but yea…our honeymoon was all sex all the time lol. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’ve heard of people not having sex on the wedding night, but I think it’s reasonable of him to expect that you’re going to be having it on honeymoon. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think it’s good to have a balance of things to do on a honeymoon besides sex, but I think it should also be on the agenda.  Hopefully once you’re on your honeymoon and having some time together, it will just happen naturally and you’ll be excited for it again.  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wouldnt go into the honeymoon with the thinking that there would be no sex, but also dont beat yourself up if it doesnt happen morning, noon and night.

My husband and I are in our 30’s, lived together and obv slept together before marriage. We just got back from our 10 day honeymoon (6 months after the wedding) and I think we had sex 3 times. It wasnt a big deal- we still are super excited about being married and had a blast on our honeymoon! =)

I “cut it off” about 3 months before the wedding so that the wedding night could be special and there would be some anticipation BUT then we drank too much and sex didnt happen until the next day. =) hehe oh well! HAPPY honeymooning and dont overthink it! Just relax and enjoy your trip- together, as a MARRIED couple! Yea!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I feel like it’s a little concerning that you aren’t even married yet and you are already planning on how you are not having sex on your honeymoon.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Our wedding is still 8 months away and we’ve lived together for over 2 years now and we are already talking about what we are going to do sex wise, during our honeymoon!! We have gotten in ruts here and there but we still have passinate sex. 

I suggest you not put a damper on it by already saying you’re not going to want to because then you definitely won’t want to. How about you just go with the flow instead? 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’d have been gutted if my husband had been meh about sex on our honeymoon, and we were together 12 years before marrying and well past our peak (for frequency). 

I’d never suggest “putting up” with sex but I’d give some thought as to how you both could rekindle your desire, and not just for the honeymoon, mismatched sex drives can drive a wedge between you. 

I’m not a porn fan but it works for lots of women, erotic fiction can be good. You both might have got a bit lazy about foreplay, asking for a back massage could be a good start.  

Hopefully the stress of wedding planning has taken its toll.  Remember how amazing it was when you couldn’t keep,your hands off each other!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Managing expectations is important. My Darling Husband was under the assumption that there’d be sex on the wedding night and a couple of times everyday on the honeymoon. He asked if the box of 24 condoms was going to be enough?!? 

But don’t rule out the possibility of sex, just see where it takes you. Also if you’re in a bit of rut why not use this as a chance to spice it up a bit as a PP said. I took a few sexy pieces of underwear with us 😉 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have to say, our honeymoon we had the most sex we’ve had in a long time, there was something about this “new phase” we were in that renewed it. And we both wanted it, so just saying, your feelings about this may change come the honeymoon. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think you have to be constantly doing it on your honeymoon- but I do think it’s odd if you don’t do it at all. Like even a couple times? 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

roses1400:  by the time my husband and I got married, we’d been together for 8 years, 5 of those living together. We weren’t like constantly at it the entire 2.5 weeks, but we were on a high from our wedding and were intimate daily. I would have been pretty hurt to be rejected during my honeymoon. 

From what you say, it sounds like the desire for sex has dwindled on your end but not on his… perhaps some lingerie and romance is in order to get you back in the mood?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I can relate a bit? We have been living together for three years and sex has dwindled, it’s still good and we still enjoy it, it’s just not frequent. 

I personally am getting excited for the honeymoon. I know sex is important to him and I couldn’t imagine taking that away from him. Even though sex is not as important to me, it turns me on how much he enjoys it. I have bought new lingerie and things for the honeymoon, which has helped me get excited for it. I would say try getting some new things to spice it up to suprise him. 

I mean I know we aren’t going to be doing it every hour, but I really think going into the honeymoon thinking you aren’t going to have sex at all, isn’t fair. Take at least a day for you two, so you aren’t tired. I think if your excited you still will want to have sex regardless of how tired or how many other activities you will have done that day. Just change your attitude about it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I would personally just go with the flow, but it kind of sounds like you’re building in excuses to not have sex before it even happens. 

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