(Closed) No Sex On Honeymoon?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 46
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162 posts
Blushing bee

roses1400:  no sex during honeymoon and the week after. I tried skipping a period and got all messed up. I bled for 20 straight days.

Post # 49
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539 posts
Busy bee

roses1400: Ok, well in that case, he shouldn’t expect you to have a massively increased sex drive just because you’ll be on your honeymoon. But similarly, you shouldn’t plan that it won’t increase – who knows, maybe you’ll be more excited by the new surroundings and your new marital status than you think!

I also think you could take the other bees advice about trying to get yourself a little more excited by the prospect of sex, via buying some new lingere (or even sex toys or props!), or by telling him about a fantasy you’d like to realise…

On the issue itself, I would do some reading up on possible causes of low libido. You’ll know about the pill, for example – that ruined my sex drive when I was on it. I’m not saying that having a lower sex drive than your husband means you have a problem, but it may be worth looking into.  At least you are both aware that it could become a problem in the future, so you’ll be ready to address it if need be.

Post # 50
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2507 posts
Sugar bee

roses1400:  i didn’t say it seems different – i said that is different because you are married. the sex might feel exactly the same, i dunno. but the status of your relationship IS different – even if you just think it’s a piece of paper. it, legally, means a whole host of other and different things. and you should be happy to celebrate that difference intimately with your partner.

if you’re not….i really think you shoudln’t be gettind married.

Post # 51
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Bumble Beekeeper

It is so exciting being newly married. I’d think that’d be enough to jump start the sex drive. I can see how camping might make it less conducive to sex, but if you really wanted to make it a priority, you could modify your trip a bit. Perhaps you could spend the start or end of the trip in a nice romantic hotel. Or maybe it’s just your preference to not have sex on the trip. It’s something to work out with your Fiance since it sounds like your expectations differ. 

Post # 52
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

roses1400:  I would not plan a honeymoon that did not support love making. I would make adjustments to the honeymoon activities so that sex can be enjoyable and anticipated.

Post # 53
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2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You are going on an 18 day trip & don’t think you can “fit” sex in? That’s almost 3 weeks without sex! That seems like a pretty big dry spell. I think most husbands would be hugely disappointed, especially on their honeymoon.

Post # 55
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I find it a bit weird that youve already decided prior to the honeymoon that you don’t want to have sex on it and are already talking yourself out of it. Why not just go with the flow and when the mood strikes, as if you talk yourself out of it in advance, it’ll become a self fulfilling prophecy.

Just take things as they come. You don’t have to bonk like bunnies on your honeymoon, but equally, you don’t want to be celibate on your honeymoon either.

Post # 56
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Trying so hard to “fit” sex in the schedule and make it a “prority” doesn’t sound very fun, especially since you have such a low libido… Your honeymoon sounds super packed. With all the hiking and sightseeing, would you two have the energy to still want sex? Maybe readjust the schedule and have several laidback days just to chill and spend time together? 

3 week dry spell sounds like a horrible honeymoon to me… lol. Were you never interested in sex much since the beginning of your relationship?

Post # 57
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think this is the first time I’ve ever heard of anyone preferring hiking over sex.

Post # 58
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1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Not sure about Fiance but sex sex sex is definitely on my agenda lol. Just the thought of marrying him turns me on. We don’t usually have a crazy sex life or anything but we don’t go more than maybe a week without (2 weeks max). On a good week we have sex maybe 4 times (we have kids this is rare). I am incredibly attracted to him and can’t wait to see him all dressed up and professing his love to me forever. That is hot to me! He’s also a great dancer so I look forward to his dance moves at the reception 🙂 I can’t imagine marrying someone I didn’t feel that way about (not saying you shouldn’t get married by any means). Some how, some way girl, you gotta find your mojo and get out of this rut. You will both be happier. 

Post # 59
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Sugar bee

 

roses1400:  it’s the pill. Go off it. In a year, your sex drive will appear almost magically.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by  zl27.

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