- 13 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
MrsPomegranate – What did you end up doing?
MrsPomegranate – What did you end up doing?
It’s been a few weeks and the dust has settled…
After the honeymoon, I contacted the photographer and asked what she thought we should do in this situation. She wrote a very long, heart-felt apology and took responsibility for 100% of her actions. I believe in her sincerity. She also agreed to not collect any more money from us… effectively a 50% discount in her services. I was satisfied with the compromise. The photos were proofed quickly and available about 2 weeks after the wedding. Many of them are gorgeous!
I’ve tried to put the initial disappointment of this behind me. I’ve accepted this situation as one of those things that was out of my control. It still makes me sad to think about it. Now that the photos are back, I realize that we missed some pretty important shots (other than getting ready and the ceremony!) In all of the confusion and chaos of the day, we never took a picture of the entire bridal party. We had a small wedding party — only 2 BMs and 2 GMs… not too many people to coordinate IMO. We have pics of the girls and the guys separately, but none with the full bridal party. My 5-yr old neice was the flower-girl. There are a few cute pics of her alone but I wish she was included with the girls. We didn’t get any posed pictures with the bride and the flowergirl together. Even in an ideal situation I realize there would always be photos that I wished I had, but these seem so basic. I feel so let down by the whole experience.
On the brighter side, our officiant was given a disposable camera and took some really unique photos of the processional — those can’t be beat! Other guests have shared their photos too… there are a few hidden gems among the multitude!
i’m so glad to hear things are settled! what a terrible thing to have happen, though it is good to hear you do have some great photos.
I just read this post for the first time and it was making me sick to my stomach. I could not imagine what makes peopel disregard professionalism when they are hired to capture a moment in our lives. Something you can’t get back.
But I am so happy to hear that your guests and officiant were able to provide you with some expert and unique pictures that may have never been captured had they been trying to stay out of the professionals way. Your attitutude is also great… I had a mini meltdown yesterday regarding my invitations- but this is a reminder that all I have to do on time is get married. Thanks!
One more thing…
I’m not angry with the photographer. I really liked her before the wedding and in a strange way, I still like her. My husband and I decided not to disclose the photographer’s name in any public forums because we understand how delicate this type of publicity could be for her career. I honestly believe this was an isolated case, not a reflection of how she conducts business typically.
It’s difficult to describe how it felt to be in this situation on my wedding day. I was too excited to finally be getting married that I was incapable of being angry with one person that was missing. (I’ve faced much bigger problems in life, even in the last year!) I was deeply saddened and disappointed but it didn’t ruin my day. Lots of stuff went wrong all around me but I was still happy.
I was still incredibly hurt by someone I trusted. The fact that I was willing to pay that much of my hard-earned money meant I trusted her A LOT. It’s always more painful when you get hurt by someone you trust. I hope the sadness goes away in time.
At times, I still feel like something is missing. We never had engagement pictures taken because money was tight at the time. We were hoping to have great wedding photography. When I look at the photos now, I still feel some of the sadness and awkwardness that was present on that day. My husband and I talked about having some post-wedding-engagement photos taken to make up for what we lost. At least it would give us a chance to have some nice pictures taken when we’re not wearing fancy clothes that make us feel a bit silly!
I read this and thought if it were me, I would have lost it! I was at one point in photography school, and I think the photos are the one majorly important thing about a wedding. That being said, I had a photographer for 9 hours and there are still a ton of shots I "wish" we had gotten. So, while we did get photos of most things, even with 2 photographers there for that long, you would have still missed something – what I learned from our wedding day that even the most carefully planned event can be thrown of by the slightest things. You would always wish you had that one shot of you and your flowergirl or whatever/whomever else. So, I commend you on taking the higher road here! I know I would be furious and probably try to get revenge of some sort by tarnishing her rep. Good for you. And at least you had guests who took photos! All of ours tell me they don’t have any, then I get the video and I see them all snapping away all night! Now I have to hunt them all down ; )
I’m really impressed by how you’ve handled this and your feelings about her. I’m sure you just want to move on, but since you seem to have a unique take on your relationship with her (and she seems to want very badly to make amends), what if you asked her for a free 2-hour shoot of the two of you?
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