(Closed) No shower gift from most bridesmaids…

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2059 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

since most bridesmaids have to shell out a lot of cash for the wedding (dress, alterations, travel…) they’re usually not expected to give a gift.

we told our wedding party not to give us anything, but my bridesmaids gave us gifts anyway. 

but i understand feeling a little upset that your bridesmaids didn’t seem to care at all- i’d be a little hurt too.


Post # 4
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think your bridesmaids should have RSVP’d, but bridesmaids already commit a bunch of their time and money for your wedding, So I don’t think they are responsible for buying you a gift. 

Post # 6
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think a text saying have a fun shower would have been nice, but I wouldn’t expect a monetary gift or multiple plane trips within a short period. Try not to take it personally maybe they just blanked on the day.

Post # 7
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As a bm even if I contribute $300 towards a shower I still bring or send a gift. I think its super rude that they didn’t even bother to rsvp. 

Post # 8
1502 posts
Bumble bee

@SWwed:  I understand you being hurt that no one reached out to say that they are thinking of you on the day of the shower.  It truly is the thought that counts, so I understand feeling hurt that they didn’t call or say they wish they could be there.  Please try not to feel badly though, because some people simply aren’t as thoughtful as others, and it may have never occurred to them to reach out.  If that is the case, it is more of a reflection of their own preoccupation with themselves than it is a reflection on their feelings about you.


Post # 9
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It is usually expensive to be a bridesmaid, so gifts from the bridal party are not expected.  

Post # 10
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yes they should have RSVP’D but I think that because of the money bridesmaids spend for the privilage I don’t think you should expect a gift!  And they have agreed to be there for your day, to FLY out to your wedding, so dont feel like theyre not thnking of you.

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