Post # 1
Hey everyone… so far in my wedding planning everyone on this site has been so suportive in sharing great ideas and DIY projects. However this week I think I finally understand why people say that planning a wedding is so stressful.
I talked with my sister, Maid/Matron of Honor, last night expecting to hear of the plans this weekend for a small shower and bachelorette party. However, she then informed me that basically she hadn’t organized anything and blamed it on the fact that people couldn’t come (because she sent an email invitation out on Weds) We are getting married in 3 weeks, have had the date set since July 2007 and have been engaged for almost 2 years. Its not like I want her to feel completly horible about the whole thing I just feel so left out and hurt that everyone let it get to this point. By everyone I mean my mom, our best man, the grooms sister and mother and all of my friends and even my Fiance. I should note that we only have a MOH/BM so there is no bridal party.
Me and my Fiance are paying for the wedding completely ourselves so I don’t think that money should be any kind of excuse. My feelings are just so hurt. I don’t know how I’m going to put on a happy face for all of these people at the wedding. I know the day of the wedding I’ll be too happy to let it bother me, but I know I will always look back at this and feel like no one cared enough to do anything for me, I would of settled for something small.
I’m sorry this was so long but it was the best place for me to get it off my chest. Have any of you girls been through a similar situation? I guess I’m just looking for someone to tell me I’m not crazy in being so hurt by this… Thanks girls
Post # 3
I am so sorry to hear this! It sounds like you are sad that they did not think of you, not because you are not having a party. I am sure that anyone would feel the same way. I do not have any advice for you, but I just wanted to tell you that I am sorry that you are feeling so sad right now.
Also, while not the same situation as yours, I have to say that I have been disappointed on more than one occasion that others have not been as excited/into my wedding as I sometimes feel they should be (including Fiance on occasion who says he is more excited for the marriage than the wedding). Please know that others are thinking of you and hoping that your wedding day will be so wonderful that you will not even remember this in years to come!
Post # 4
you have every right to feel disappointed. Could you do something next weekend? If your family isn’t throwing you any sort of party, maybe his could?
Post # 5
I feel so bad that you are sad and not enjoying this as much as you thought!! Your day will be beautiful and you have to remember it is about love and the marriage!! But, I can understand about not feeling like everyone is as excited as you would like them to be. I have been dealing with that too, my Maid/Matron of Honor changed my bachelorette party to a different day (1 week before the wedding) and now not many can come. I am firm believer if you want something done and done right then do it yourself…that is not what you imagined I am sure but try and make the best out of it at least have a bachelorette party!! Good luck I will be thinking about you and I hope everything goes well.
Post # 6
Oh, I am so sorry that you are feeling so bad. I think you are completely legitimate in feeling disappointed. I know it’s not what you imagined, but there is still time to throw yourself a bachelorette party with the people that can come. Alternately, why don’t you throw yourself a "yay I’m married!" party after the wedding? You don’t need a wedding to have an excuse to go out and have fun with your girlfriends :). Anyways, hope you are feeling better.
Post # 7
You should feel disappointed. Brides vary in style and convention, but most brides want the traditional wedding experience. I was a really laid-back bride but it was still really important for me to experience all of the "traditional stuff" and if I would have had friends who didn’t get that or weren’t really interested in helping to make it special for me, I would have been deeply hurt by it too. It’s hard to gauge how excited people will be for you at this time in your life because your wedding will never be as important to other people as it is to you. But believe me when I tell you that whatever disappointed or bitter feelings you have right now, will all be overshadowed with excitement and joy on the day of your wedding. If you still think it will be a problem, you always have post-wedding to let them know how they’re actions (or lack thereof) have hurt you.