Post # 1
We had a Destination Wedding last month and planned our “at home” party for this Friday 8-17. I sent out invitations for this in early June and got a high number of “yes” RSVPs. I had a final count of about 50-52 guests as of this past Monday and gave the caterer a final number of 55 just in case. Now I’ve had several people email to cancel and I’m starting to worry that more just won’t show. Do people ever just forget about the even? Invitations sent 7-8 weeks prior to a summer event doesn’t seem too early for me. Another vent: I invited several of my 16 yr old daughter’s close friends and now a couple have told her their parents have “grounded” them and they can’t come. Don’t people know you pay for guests and this isn’t some kids’ party that’s serving pizza??
I’ve put so much effort, planning and money into this: venue, caterer, open bar, DJ…what if people just don’t show up??
Post # 3
OK I think the statement about the kids is a bit out of line. These kids obviously did something wrong that their parents felt they needed punishment for so why would they allow them to go to a party? Yes it sucks for you and is unfortunate but the parents are well within their rights for not allowing their kids to come.
As for everyone else unfortunately things crop up. At least they have informed you that they wont be making it.
It is also not productive worrying about what ifs. You will ruin your experience/party before it has even happened. Try to focus on having a great time at your upcoming party.
Post # 4
I”m doing the same thing…but on the 18th. I sent my invites out the same time too! I got 130 rsvp’s…but then several people I never heard back from at all and couldn’t get a yes or a no. In the last week I’ve had a number of people start to waiver and say they have to work or can’t get a sitter, or whatnot…but then I have some people coming out of the blue now getting back to me saying they will probably be there….even though they were MIA previously and I had not counted them in. Then I have af ew people who I think are going to bring their kids even though I didn’t invite any kids.
It’s anybodies guess now who is coming. I did have the venue go ahead and prepare for 130 people, but I only paid per head for about 118, I just have to pay the difference if all 130 people end up actually showing. I guess I can’t stress about it…there’s nothing I can do. It’s getting pretty bad how inconsiderate people are about RSVP’s and that pretty much if you say you are gong to be there you better keep your word unless an emergency arises…or if you dont’ respond, don’t expect just to show up.
Post # 5
Honestly, feel lucky that they are telling you ahead of time – we one completely empty table at our reception (which definitely could of saved us at least $500) because DH’s aunt and uncle decided they were too tired and stayed home to take a nap, and his cousins decided to not bring their children even though they RSVPed with them!
Post # 6
unfortunately, sometimes life throws you a curve and your plans change. It’s just the way it is and if people are gracious enough to let you know of their change of plans, you should be gracious in return.