(Closed) No silly cousin a photo postcard does not equal a thank you note:)

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ohmy…yea that is rude

Post # 5
37 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was planning on doing thank-you postcards 🙁

When FI’s brother got married, I helped them set up the reception and my Fiance made batches and batches of carrot salad. We even bought her hairspray at a last second store run. We wrote our names and addresses in the guestbook, I got no thank you card even a year later no “Thanks y’all” or anything. 

Post # 6
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@ieatunicorns:  Yeah, but you don’t want to stoop to that level, do you? Let it go, and revel in the manners you know you have. You can’t control someone else’s.

Post # 7
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m really a stickler for personalized thank you notes. I would be fine with a photo post-card, if the other side included a hand-written, personal thank you. We have 3 out-of-state weddings to attend this summer. Out of Town guests spend a lot of money (transportation, lodging, food for the weekend, etc.) to attend your ceremony, the least you can do is send a personal thank-you to acknowledge that. Everyone should receive a personal thank you, but Out of Town guests especially!!

Post # 8
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I got a postcard picture thank you… considering it was the ONLY thank you card I recieved from the last 6+ weddings, I was happy with it

But I do not plan to do a generic one, if we do picture thank yous, I will be sure to add a note to the family when I send


Post # 9
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


Post # 10
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@negrande:  Those are *really* cute-and easy to personalize them. It’s sometimes hard as a guest to get a good shot of the bride & groom- I’d appreciate that-would just like the note on the back.

Post # 11
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is SO RUDE. (I support the anonymous etiquette book sending)

Post # 12
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t really see a problem with it, lots of weddings don’t follow etiquitte these days, and simple Thank You’s are just one of the new things. I don’t buy people a gift and expect a Thank You card, I buy them a gift cause it’s their special day and it’s my way to Thank them for letting me be a part of it 🙂

Don’t get me wrong, Thank you’s are nice, but I just don’t expect them.

I will do them for my wedding, but they will be simple and to the point as it’s more us :).

Post # 14
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When one of my bridesmaids got married two years ago (I was a bridesmaid for her), all we got was a Thank You photo post card.  I didn’t think much of it since back then I didn’t realize a personalized note was the proper thing to do.  Also, I did soooo much for her when I was her bridesmaid.  Oh well.  

A few months ago another one of my friends got married and we have yet to receive any type of thank you from her.  I’m not even sure she acknowledged the nice wedding card with a very nice dollar amount that was placed in there from us.  :shrug: Can’t do much about people like that.  

I definitely plan on writing personalized thank you notes to guests. 

I agree with @JulesSchnooks, don’t stoop that low.

Post # 15
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Do people really get so worked up over not receiving personalized thank you notes? Does it ruin your day? Yes, it’s rude. Is it worth expending all that energy on being angry, buying a book, highlighting parts, and sending it? I think you need to let it go and realize that while you might never behave that way, a perceived breach of etiquette does not warrant such a reaction.

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