(Closed) No social media posts during the wedding…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 167
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RaysBride89:  I have to admit, this concern was on factor that had us choose to get married on a boat.

You can put something in the program asking folks to shut off their cellphone during the ceremony.

Post # 168
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I readily share photos of people I know to social media because that’s sort of “what is done” in today’s day and age. I do it much less than I used to and mostly take photos at special events that I want to remember. That being said, if someone asks me to remove a photo of them, I do it, and if someone told me beforehand that they didn’t want a photo of them posted to social media, I would respect their wishes. A little unorthodox and at most eye-roll-inducing? Yes, but it’s not like it’s somehow an inconvenience to me to not take a photo of you. I’d just take photos of me with my husband or with other friends there.


However, some food for thought: I considered having an unplugged wedding, but I’m so, so, so glad I didn’t. Some of my favorite photos from the wedding are guest photos. Some of the guests captured angles my photographers were not able to capture for logistical reasons or are just fun candids from when my photographers weren’t around early or very late in the day.


You may be worried how you look in some of the less flattering photos, but you can always untag them or ask the poster to remove them. If you tell people not to upload photos of you to social media, they will probably refrain from taking any photos of you altogether. Who knows? You may end up with a few guest photos you cherish.


For example, this is a guest photo from my wedding that I love and that is going in my album (and it was a featured photo on the blog part of this site):

There are also photos from the end of the reception after my photographers left when my face is shiny and I don’t look perfect, but we look so happy, and all of our friends came together to form a circle, sway, and sing along to the last song, and I am so glad we have those photos. Not to mention photos of getting ready, silly candids of me with my bridesmaids and with my mom (precious now with my mother so ill), etc.


I know your mind may be made up, but if your only reason for deciding is that you’re worried about the unflattering pics, I figured I’d offer you another perspective.

Post # 169
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

God, I hate facebook and other social media outlets. So tacky and weird. Anyway, don’t listen to these fools who say it’s controlling. People who violate privacy by not asking before positng a picture of someone are rude and IMO dispicable. It’s so unfortnate that we now live in a society where we actually have to request that people be polite and respectful. 

I know this thread is old now, but I wanted to post anyway to tell you about an article I recently read written by a well known wedding photographer. Essentially it said that people’s cameras, phones, and even ipads (yes ipads!) are showing up in almost all of their pictures, most of them ruining the shots!! They are blocking guests faces, and half the time they put out a weird light on the bride/groom that changes the color of everything. The photogs are having to spend many extra hours editing photos which in turn drives up their price. This is a common issue in the industry now. Most of the “key moments” are ruined by guests with their phones and whatnot. For example, people dangling out into the aisle blocking a shot of the vows, or a couple walking as they exit the ceremony. First dances and father/daughter dances are ruined almost everytime by guests covering their faces with cameras and the flashes. He even said that many professionals in the industry are starting to include a clause in their contract about this type of thing so they are not liable for ruined pictures. 

POST THE SIGN. Keep the cameras and phones out. If for no other reason, do it because you don’t want your  precious wedding photos ruined by MO-RONS with no class. 


Post # 170
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@JaneyDcat:  +10000

my two Future Sister-In-Law are terrible. they post phoyos of Fiance and me on their fb knowing we dont like that.

one fsil annoynced our engagement before me! i am glad to not send ger photo of my ring as she asked for .. it would end up on fb its nit her fuc.. place! she posts her pics every freakun day ughhh so annoyinh

i dont want to take them dress shopping because they might just share those pics with my fi or on social media. the have a problem with thrmselves like they are addicted to aytention on social medis

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