(Closed) No social media posts during the wedding…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 92
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614 posts
Busy bee

@cantonbride:  Talk about lack of class, you took this to the next level by posting that ridiculous picture and making this a personal attack.

I see nothing wrong with this request. She is requesting pictures of herself not to be posted, not everyone else. If people love her, they will have no problem accepting her request. If they don’t care about her, maybe they shouldn’t be there.

Post # 93
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s ridiculous.  So an unflattering photo gets posted of you on the dance floor- who cares?  Weddings aren’t about looking perfect, they’re about making memories with people you love.  If I saw a sign asking me to get the bride’s approval before posting my pics because she wants the prettiest photos up, it would be clear that she lost sight of what’s really important.

Post # 94
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow how cruel can one be to purposely go and do what one is asked not to do just to be spiteful?  Talk about quality human behavior. 

Post # 95
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933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

@abbie017:  Not being defensive was just trying generate a conversation with you but dont worry 🙂

 

To everyone in general: There seem to be many different issues in this thread I agree that approval for prettiest pics is petty (although i would still respect the brides wishes) and it should be either do or dont but if its a dont i think people should respect that 

 

Post # 96
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234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@RaysBride89:  I think it will be more polite to ask people not to post photos on social media sites at all.

Asking adults to ask you permission sounds ridiculous. So either ban social media all together or allow people to post what they want.

Post # 97
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933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

@shaniqua:  100% agree

Post # 98
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682 posts
Busy bee

I didn’t read all the posts, sorry in advance, but I downlaoded 2 apps, WedPics and WeddingParty that I plan on sharing with the guests at my wedding to download and share pictures with me. I’m a photographer and I love photos,  however, I AM picky about photos of me, but I will enjoy everyone elses persepective of our special day and share them on social media, such as FB and Instagram.

 

ETA:  Anyone with a camera, that takes a picture – sorry to say, automatically owns the copyrights to that photograph.  

Post # 99
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933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

My photographer actually asked me not to have other people taking pics when they are as sometimes the flash from other cameras can ruin the professional pics and she will not compete with family hustling in on professional pics soo I havent really thought about how im going to deal with that one yet, any ideas??

Post # 100
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682 posts
Busy bee

@leecy87  As a pro wedding photographer, I ask family members not to take pictures during the time we are taking formals at the church after the ceremony.  I give them a second, depending on how much time the church allows us during formals, to let family members snap a few shots before I rearrange the altar with new family membrs.  I don’t let family members tag along for bridal and bridal party portraits at the parks either.  Thier flashes do interfer with ours.  

I don’t think you’ll have to deal with it, My second shooter and I announce it when we start our formals after the ceremony.  And we make them stand back. Most of the time, we only let people being photographed at the church only for formals. Too many people, too many flashes and it turns into a circus and we can’t get our work done in a timely manner.  We are time limited from the time the cermony ends for formals before mass starts. 

Post # 101
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

As a matter of course, I never post a picture that has someone else in it without running it by them first. I just think that it is the respectful thing to do. I have been to a wedding where I took tons of pics…did I automatically post them to FB? No; I emailed them to the bride and groom to do with as they wish. Photos of me were put up but any of the happy couple were sent to them separately. Will I make this request myself? Not sure if its worth it to do so…

Post # 102
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Sugar bee

OP, sounds like your mind is made up. Some people will see it as totally cool, and others as overbearing and silly. Just be prepared for both reactions and if you’re OK with that… then own it. It is unreasonable to think that EVERY guest will be on board with this, but like most things wedding: your day, your way.

Post # 103
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think asking people not to take pictures during the ceremony is okay. If people are jumping into the aisles during the service and the flash is going off, that’s distracting to everyone. It’s got nothing to do with Facebook. You’re not telling people what to do, you are requesting them to do something (or, in the case of the pinboard, “inviting” them to do something).

The reception is trickier. I get what the OP is saying- she doesn’t want pictures of HER uploaded to Facebook without her permission. My dad is the same way and it’s got nothing to do with weddings or etiquette- he is a private person and doesn’t like the idea of people taking pictures of him and posting them without telling him. He doesn’t have a facebook and it always kind of irks him when someone is like, oh hey, saw a nice pic of you at cousin Janie’s BBQ last weekend- and my dad is like, there was a pic of me taken at Janie’s BBQ? I never thought twice about posting pics of myself with other people on Facebook until I got a few requests from friends to remove pictures they deemed unflattering. Now I just don’t do it anymore. I pretty much just use Facebook to keep in touch with my cousins and see pictures of their kids.

The problem is that it’s kind of all or nothing. You tell people, don’t upload pictures from my wedding on to Facebook, they’re going to tell you to get bent. They may take a group shot of themselves dancing to the Cupid Shuffle (wow I am dating myself) and they want to post that on Facebook. Their going to assume you don’t ANY pics related to your wedding on Facebook. You could clarify, don’t put any pictures of ME on facebook, but then you run the risk of them thinking (or saying) wow, get over yourself.

I don’t know if it will be a huge issue. Maybe I am just friends with a bunch of camera whores, but most of my friends just post pictures of themselves with their friends on Facebook (at events like weddings). They might take a pic of you or the groom, but they probably won’t post that. Half their friends list would be like, why did you post a pic of a random bride and groom?

Post # 104
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I saw a picture of my friends ceremony that someone posted on Facebook. The picture was taken at the same time another picture was being taken and you could see their flash. It was horrible. If someone took a picture at the same time my photographer did and ruined one of the pictures I was paying for, I’d be LIVID. Especially if it was something as short as the kiss. You don’t get an opportunity to re-do that.

When I sent out my invitations, I included a little note that asked people not to take pictures during the ceremony. I can’t stop them from taking pictures during the reception and posting them wherever they want to, but I’m paying too much money for professional pictures of my ceremony to have someone elses flash ruin the picture. I think you are well within your right, at least during the ceremony.

Post # 105
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-08-07/features/ct-tribu-weigel-wedding-social-media-20120807_1_social-media-bride-and-groom-guests

http://arkarthick.com/2013/01/09/social-media-etiquette-for-wedding/

http://socialmediachangeseverything.com/category/social-media-etiquette/

 

Out of the six sites I went to, every single one says it’s in bad form or the buzz word here “etiquette” to post pictures without consent.  Here are a few I liked.  OP, the last link has a little card the bride and groom did for their guests.

Post # 106
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My question to the op would be, are you going to ask your guests permission when you post your pro pics online? If they happen to be in the background if your pictures stuffing their faces, maybe they don’t want them up on FB, are you going to ask their permission before you post them?

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