(Closed) No social media posts during the wedding…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 107
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@RaysBride89:  I know you can’t control much with instagram, but you can change settings on fb so you can “approve” a tagged photo. That’s only if they tag you though! I am sure a cute little sign will work near the entrance, but also, I am sure you will look beautiful anyway and you shouldn’t be so self-conscious if someone takes your photo!

Post # 108
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@deetroitwhat:  I like the idea of this or really, any of the other tide as posted in this thread.

For some people it is just impossible for them to turn off and while constant posting and tweeting may help them feel more the moment, I disagree. Great ideas all 🙂

Post # 109
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Christ, this got heated quickly.

But in all actuality- who gives a shit? OP, make your Facebook more private and disable tagging. People who are all worked up about this- let it go, you’re not invited to the wedding. 

The reality is that it’s your wedding. You can act however you want. You’re an adult, and if this is how you feel, then that’s your prerogative. 

Post # 110
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Generally people here know that it’s incredibly rude to post photos of the bride/groom/wedding. Really, it falls under basic etiquette.  I’ve only seen it happen a few times and people were like “I can’t believe you did that”. Unfortunatley not every guest is going to have the common sense not to post pictures all over. If you’re really concerned it could happen, you could always spread your request by word of mouth, in a nice way. At the end of the day though, if it happens, it happens. 

Post # 111
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Busy bee

Ok, so how hard it is for guests to respect the bride and groom? They are not asking you NOT to take pictures, they are just asking you NOT to post them.

that is not controlling, that is showing some respect to their privacy. 

Post # 114
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5486 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Girl, in the world we are living in, you better accept that people may choose to do that or quietly elope where no pictures can be taken!

Post # 116
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why don’t you just deactivate the account and reactivate it later? You won’t lose any of your info,friends, pics, etc and no one will be able to post to it. By the time you reactivate it people will be out of the moment and probably not feel impelled to post pictures. Saves you from looking rude and solves the problem.

Post # 117
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think I have a recommendation to the OP— if your guests won’t oblige you and keep their photos of your wedding OFF facebook, then I think it’s perfectfly fine (etiquette wise) to send their thank you note via poke on facebook.

 

Since it seems they would enjoy that…since it seems facebook has a big priority in some people’s lives.

 

Frankly, I don’t quite understand this hard-on people have for facebook.  

Post # 118
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@JaneyDcat – hahaha, love it!

Post # 119
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You should elope. Just you and your husband plus your designated photogs.

Post # 120
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The problem with deactivating your account or making privacy restrictions is that it does not prevent people from seeing your pictures. If I am freinds with the bride and we have 150 friends in common, If i just post it on my page without any tags, her picture is still there for everyone to see and talk about. Social media is evil like that.

Post # 121
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, based on some of the responses in this thread, I’m a bridezilla too!  We’re having an unplugged ceremony.  It’s a very emotional and private moment for us, and we don’t need a few dozen amateurs trying to step all over each other trying to get the perfect shot from their iPhone.  We’re hiring a photographer that understands the meaning of the word ‘discreet’ for a reason.  Our officiant will be making a short statement before the ceremony starts requesting everyone to keep their phones, tablets, cameras turned off and in their purses or pockets.  It’ll also be on our wedding website.  If our guests can’t respect that our wedding ceremony is not the time for them to be using their phones, they don’t need to be there. 

They’re more than welcome to break out the phones and cameras for the reception, but I’ll probably keep the FB settings where I have to approve tagged photos.  And for the record, I don’t tag people in photos without their prior consent.  I find it rude and a violation of personal space and privacy.

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