(Closed) No speeches for me?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I asked my dad to do a welcome toast. Could you ask you dad if he’ll do that for you? And then in terms of your Maid/Matron of Honor, I say she should make a speech anyway. My Maid/Matron of Honor hates public speaking, too, but she gave a toast anyway!

Post # 5
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Do you have another friend or family member who could step up?  Like perhaps if you have someone doing a reading during your ceremony, you could ask them to perhaps say a few words.

Post # 6
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We had no speeches at mine. 

Post # 7
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it would be ok if the best man just gave a toast…… i’d have them call it a TOAST rather than a speech, and then it just sounds less awkward. 

Post # 8
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2822 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

The best man & Maid/Matron of Honor are doing speeches at our reception. We will do a short thank you speech at the end.

Post # 9
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

no speeches for me … we’re cutting out the formal meal though so don’t think it matters.

No best man either, so I just plan to do a short thank you speech after the buffet.

Most people don’t like public speaking, including me so why get them stressed out .. it will spoil their day

Post # 10
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

There will be no speeches at mine and it doesn’t bother me at all. FI’s brother does not want to give one, so I’m not making my Maid/Matron of Honor either…but she can if she wants. I was Maid/Matron of Honor once and was made to give a speech and I’m terrified of public speaking. The speech was super short…just a basic congrats. I felt bad for not going into depth about our relationship, but I just couldn’t do it. The entire beginning if the reception wasn’t fun for me at all knowing I had to give a speech. I would just stick with the best man “toast” or ask another friend or family member to do it. I assure you its not because your Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt love you! 

Post # 12
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think it’ll be weird at all. I was my sisters Maid/Matron of Honor and I was so nervous to give a speech that  I couldn’t enjoy myself at all. I was literally terrified. HATE public speaking. But, I got through it. I guess to me, I wouldn’t have felt right if i didn’t do the speech. I just looked at my sister instead of all the guests and said the speech to her. It helped big time.

Post # 13
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1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was in the opposite situation.  My Maid/Matron of Honor and my sister both wanted to speak but I didn’t want someone to speak for me.  So, my dad gave a toast and so did the best man, and that was it.  Fine with me!

Post # 14
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No one really likes toasts, giving or listening but the bride and groom. It takes time away from the fun of the reception. I personally don’t want any speeches and told our Maid/Matron of Honor and best man if they do one they have a 3 minutes limit, haha. They are both barely over 21 so I think they are both thankful.

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