Post # 1
We just purchased a 2.22 G/VS Ex cut Oval diamond!
It’s exactly what I wanted, so I am over the moon BUT it IS a large stone (10.19 x 7.32). We are having it set in a 1.5mm pave halo, with a 1.5mm pave band in platnium. Which means that the ring will be 13.19 x 10.32. Now, I love big diamonds, big rings, but, is it too big…
I am also 21, Fiance is 22 so I am sure we will get the “How can you afford that” looks/comments (Not that it is anyones business, but seeing as you Bee’s are all lovely and will probably wonder) we paid for it in cash, FI-to-be saved very hard and I’m paying for the setting as he wanted a simple solitare (his preference) and I wanted the pave halo/band so I said I would be happy to pay for it.
Another aspect, is that there are quite a lot of my friends/girls I went to HS with, who are engaged (a few who are married) and my ring is MUCH larger then theirs (not that theirs aren’t gorgeous!) the largest being 1.2tcw. I know that a few will be envious. I say I ‘know’ as when they got engaged they complained about how they wanted a bigger diamond/plan to upgrade for an anniversary etc and made bitchy comments if someone had a bigger ring then theirs.
What is the best way to cope with negative comments from people in regards to your ring? And how do YOU deal with it/what do you say?
Post # 3
Wow, thats a nice ering!
My advice is to rock it. Who cares what other people say about it theres no reason to feel ashamed of it! Just say that your Fiance worked hard to save so that he could give you the perfect ring thats right for you both, theres nothing wrong with that.
And holy god, can you please post pictures when you get it?!!? I’m sure I’ll drool all over my keyboard!
Post # 4
@misschickpea: +1 cant wait to see pics!!! If anyone does ask how you afforded it, say the truth you Fiance worked hard and wanted to get you that ring!
Post # 5
Rock it girl and forget the rest!!!
Post # 6
How do you do the @someonesname to tag them?
@misschickpea: and @Pokemon: Thank you! I will most certainly be posting pic’s on here once I have the ring! I don’t plan on putting pictures up on Facebook, so Weddingbee will be bombarded lol.
I love that you both said to tell them he worked hard to save for it – which is the most simple thing to do that I didn’t even think of! Silly me.
I suppose I’m just worried people are going to assume it’s fake, or that I will feel as if I should not ‘show it off’ as to not offend people.
Post # 7
You know it’s real so why do you care if others think its fake? If somebody can’t tell the difference and gets some pleasure out of believing something that’s not true let them fill their boots.
I’m sure the question won’t be “how did he come up with the cash for that” but rather “why was that a priority Rather than *insert random seemingly more responsible purchase*”. And again that’s where you have to decide for yourself how much you want to entertain people’s inquiries into your finances. A simple “we really wanted to buy a ring I’ll be happy to wear for the rest of my life” is more than sufficient if someone actually has the balls to ask.
I don’t have an “excessively” large e-ring so I don’t face these questions though… So I don’t have too much real world experience to offer there.
Post # 8
I sometimes feel like this will be an issue with my ering. We picked out a 2.04 carat simply accented solitare and now im nervous that when I do see it, it will be to big so please post a picture so we can see!!
Thanks! Im sure its gorgeous
Post # 9
@Lily-Grace202: congrats on the diamond and for paying for it in cash. good for you. that’s very exciting. i have an oval diamond of that size too. i love it. as pp have mentioned. i would just let people know that your fi worked hard to buy you the ring of your dreams. one that you will have forever.
i can’t wait to see your ring when it’s done.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
I have a 1.22 carat round brilliant diamond with 41 diamonds on the band and sides and I at first thought it was too much but wouldn’t trade it for the world! I would love to have a 1.5 diamond plus but we got my diamond along for $7300 alone so it wasn’t in our budget! My mom thought my 1.22 was too big and looks fake but it seems a lot of ladies today have big diamonds on their fingers! Rock it!
Post # 11
If you’re only worried it’s too big because what others might/will think, forget it. No matter what you have, what age you are, what your income is… someone with think it’s too big and someone else with think it’s too small… just enjoy it!
@SapphireSun: “A simple “we really wanted to buy a ring I’ll be happy to wear for the rest of my life” is more than sufficient if someone actually has the balls to ask.” Couldn’t say it any better. And it’s obviously true if he preferred a solitaire but went with halo/pave.
@Lily-Grace202: Just click on the “reply” and it does the @name link for you. Very handy :).
Post # 12
@MrsTangerine: Yay! Thanks, I’ve been wondering how to do that!
I know I shouldn’t worry about it and I’m sure when I have it on my finger I won’t care what anyone else has to say. FI-to-be loves it and so do I. I suppose I just have to get thicker skin and not let any rude comments bother me.
That is EXACTLY why we bought what we did, when we first started looking FI-to-be had a very different idea to what to get me (on everything – price, shape, style, carat), but he wanted to get me my dream ring. He said “I want the ring I ask you to be my wife with be the same ring you wear on our 50th wedding anniversary” and I love that!
Post # 13
Personally I think you should not have to justify what you are wearing on your hand or how you and Fiance finanically were able to afford it.
Post # 14
@misschickpea: +1!!!!! especially the photo part 🙂
Post # 15
oh, screw all the nasty commenters. rock your ring, and don’t forget to post it here 🙂
Post # 16
As long as you love your ring, they’ll get over it. Show us when it comes in!