(Closed) No thanks, I don’t eat meat…. Ok, how about some kielbasa then?

posted 7 years ago in Cooking
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve never met anyone who doesn’t understand what vegetarianism is. That would get a big ole WTF from me as well. Perhaps you could send them a helpful internet link to read?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Hahaha, sorry, that reminds me of the scene in “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” where Toula says that her Fiance doesn’t eat meat. And her aunt is all, ” HE DON’T EAT NO MEAT ?!?!?!?! Well, we serve lamb instead.” Bahahaha! 

Sorry your relatives are ignorant to your choices. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well, to play Devil’s Advocate…I have vegetarian friends that eat seafood.  I have vegetarian friends that don’t eat dairy/meat products.  I have vegetarian friends that don’t eat red meat.  And vegetarian friends that don’t eat any meat.  And vegetarian friends that don’t eat meat unless it was organic/humanely killed.

I’d just give the benefit of the doubt here.  Vegetarianism means a lot of different things to a lot of different people.  It’s possible the relative was trying to understand what vegetarianism means to you.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is how my future ILs are. They are the sweetest people and while they certainly understand what vegetarianism is, they are ALWAYS trying to poke their way around it. They would never try to get me to eat meat without me knowing it, but every week without fail at Sunday night dinner they will ask if I’ll eat this or that.

I don’t know about your family in particular, but if they are like my future ILs they don’t mean any harm by it. They just don’t “get it”. I don’t think responding with something snarky or snide would accomplish anything.

Just try explaining to them that you respect their decision to eat meat, and that they should respect your decision not to. Let them know that you don’t feel right eating meat, but that their constant pressure is making it difficult to stay true to your beliefs and you could really use their support.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oy, story of my life, too! Or people will tell me to ‘just pick off the pepperoni’. NO!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hey could be worse.  My sister is gluten-intolerant and vegan.  And people will say to her, are you sure you don’t want some of this cheese?  Or bread?  It’s so delicious!  Lol.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh jeez, sorry!  It’s just harder for some to understand for whatever reason I guess!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@kay01: I kind of disagree. I understand being confused because some vegetarians (like myself) classify themselves as vegetarian but will eat fish (technically called pescatarian) and some vegetarians wont eat any animal byproduct (they would refer to themself as vegan) but if you are classifying yourself as vegetarian at all you dont eat meat – beef, turkey, chicken, lamb, etc. I have never heard someone refer to themself as vegetarian just because they dont eat red meat. If I did, I would probably correct them and say you arent a vegetarian then.

@OP – It is weird to me that people arent understanding that you dont eat meat and dont respect that. Maybe you just need to be more straightforward about your eating choices?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you don’t mind not being able to make a statement about it, I’d just lie and say you don’t eat meat for health reasons.  It may be partially true anyway, but if you take it away from being a choice and make it sound more like a necessity, people might accept/remember it more.  I’m not saying to outright lie and say you’re allergic or anything, but just to be vague about how meat doesn’t agree with you so you avoid it. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I’m sorry, but this just reminded me of last night’s dinner at my parents’ house.  We were grilling steaks and kielbasa, but for some reason the sausage’s consistency grossed me out and I couldn’t eat it.  Weird……sorry for the threadjack, lol!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

@kay01: If you eat seafood, you are not a vegetarian. If you eat chicken but no red meat, you are not a vegetarian. If you don’t eat animal products, you are a vegan. To the OP, sorry, I’m from Africa. A very meat eating culture in Africa. I’ve heard of some of my folks who eat only fish, but I’ve never met a vegetarian from my country. I bet you if you visited my mother, she’d think ‘vegetarian’ means ‘no red meat’ But you only have to tell her once though. After that she wouldn’t feed you what you don’t like.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@kay01: I think thats why a lot of people are confused when someone is actually a vegetarian.. people say they are to make it easier than going through a long explaination of what they do or don’t eat.

 A lot of people will say they are vegetarian if they dont eat certain types of meat.. and they aren’t. People who dont eat red meat are just people who don’t eat red meat.. people who only eat seafood are pescetarians, people who dont eat meat, dairy, or any other animal by-product are vegan.

I was vegetarian for about 7 years and I never understood why people would still offer me fish or chicken. Like OP though I would always feel bad when my FIs family would make a big deal about it and worry about cooking something extra for me.. everything else is fine to eat.. just minus the meat.. always PLENTY of food. My sister is also vegetarian and always makes something extra to bring though that is vegetarian just in case (eg. easter she brough some quiche). 

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