Post # 1
So I THOUGHT that we had a timeline. Operative word: thought. Apparently we don’t. Last night SO shot down any idea of a timeline. I know that it won’t be soon (i.e. definitely not before summer), but he said that it “won’t be years.” Other than that–it could literally come at any time. You guys gotta help me. Keep my mind occupied so I’m not bugging him about it. That’s it–no talking about weddings, rings, or any other pretty things unless he brings it up! I swear I’m gonna be good.
What about the rest of you? Did you follow a timeline? Or did you just have an understanding?
Post # 3
I have a by my 30th birthday timeline. I’m not going to crazy about it though. I love him SO much right now and I know we’ll be together. We’ve been through too much not to be together.
Sorry I sound sappy. Been having a few good waiting months.LOL
Post # 4
We had a timeline. We both knew that we wanted to get married but we started seriously talking about it last June. I assumed it would happen sometime in the summer. It didn’t. Then I thought maybe by October. Still didn’t happen. On November 1st I had a monumental breakdown because I felt like he never thought about it without me bringing it up, it was never going to happen, etc. He told me that we would be engaged by the new year and he proposed on December 10th.
Good luck!!! I know the keeping quiet part is sooooo hard but I really think it helps. There were certain times where I did really good with that and now, having talked to my sister who he confided a lot of his planning to, I know that those were the times that he made the most progress in his planning.
Post # 5
What do we choose if there’s a timeline but it hasn’t passed yet? We just established a timeline in January so I can’t tell you if he sticks to it until September. Fingers crossed!
Post # 6
The timeline I was toldall last year was by our 2 year anniversary back in December, I was led on that it would happen on our annivesary cruise… only to find out two days before the cruise that he didnt even have a ring and would not be proposing. I was devistated thinking it was only days away. Turns out when he bought a suit for my sisters wedding only a month before that ate a huge chunk into his ring fund. As of now I sit ringless still, but now the timeline is by his sister’s wedding in a few months.
And now I am experiencing a medical scare (possibly multiple sclerosis) and it has just thrown me through a loop. I just want to spend forever with him, all the bells and whistles don’t seem necessary right now.
Post # 7
@LaurenK0105: I added an option for you!
I hope you start feeling better soon! Love the kitty in your avatar. 🙂
Post # 8
I had a timeline. I shared my timeline with him. I thought he was onboard with my timeline. It became OUR timeline. But, you know what? It was really just MY timeline.
Hang in there and kudos to you for deciding NOT to talk about it. Totally wise move, IMO.
Post # 9
@MissHoneyBun: Yaaay!! Thanks! I love polls 🙂
Post # 10
Our timeline was originally before the end of 2010. Then because of layoffs, it was pushed back to “sometime in January,” then “sometime in January or February.” Now it’s supposed to be the first half of March. Considering we’ve decided we want to get married this September, he’d better hurry up!
Post # 11
We had a timeline of “in the spring sometime” but we got engaged in January, so it was way before the deadline 🙂 Not that I’m complaining…
Post # 12
I keep telling myself I’m going to be good and then I read something on here and immediately tell boyfriend about it. Or I find some cool wedding idea and tell him. I’m not very good at not talking about it.
But I will try to help you 😀
Post # 13
All my SO has told me is that it’ll happen before 2013 🙁 haha I’m pretty sure it’ll happen this year or early 2012 because he wants to buy a car together early 2013 but said we have to be engaged first. I’m not sure, somedays he says “soon” and other days its not going to be “as soon as I think”. Definitely frustrating!
Post # 14
We don’t have a timeline for an engagement. We went ring shopping and discussed getting married in summer of 2012, but that’s about it. I sort of have a timeline in my head -if it doesn’t happen by then, then I’m going to have a discussion (or meltdown!) with him about it. I’ve been pretty good at not bringing up the subject – so we’ll see how it goes. The wait has been difficult – so I know how you feel! I’m trying to keep busy and coming here is helping too!
Post # 15
No timeline for us.
But we had talked about it. So we knew that both of our feelings were mutual.
Hang in there. Remember your mantra 🙂
Post # 16
The bee has been good to keep many an impaitent waiter from unnecessary pestering. YOU CAN DO IT! WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!