(Closed) No timeline?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Was/Is there a timeline?
    There was a timeline, and we stuck to it! : (10 votes)
    16 %
    There was a timeline, but it wasn't adhered to. : (8 votes)
    13 %
    There was no timeline, we agreed that when it felt right it would happen. : (18 votes)
    29 %
    We haven't even talked about getting married. : (3 votes)
    5 %
    It was a total surprise. I had no clue he even wanted to marry me. : (0 votes)
    We have a timeline, and the deadline hasn't come yet! : (23 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    2689 posts
    Sugar bee

    I have a by my 30th birthday timeline. I’m not going to crazy about it though. I love him SO much right now and I know we’ll be together. We’ve been through too much not to be together.Smile

    Sorry I sound sappy. Been having a few good waiting months.LOL

    Post # 4
    3786 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We had a timeline. We both knew that we wanted to get married but we started seriously talking about it last June. I assumed it would happen sometime in the summer. It didn’t. Then I thought maybe by October. Still didn’t happen. On November 1st I had a monumental breakdown because I felt like he never thought about it without me bringing it up, it was never going to happen, etc. He told me that we would be engaged by the new year and he proposed on December 10th.
    Good luck!!! I know the keeping quiet part is sooooo hard but I really think it helps. There were certain times where I did really good with that and now, having talked to my sister who he confided a lot of his planning to, I know that those were the times that he made the most progress in his planning.

    Post # 5
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2006

    What do we choose if there’s a timeline but it hasn’t passed yet?  We just established a timeline in January so I can’t tell you if he sticks to it until September.  Fingers crossed!

    Post # 6
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    The timeline I was toldall last year  was by our 2 year anniversary back in December, I was led on that it would happen on our annivesary cruise… only to find out two days before the cruise that he didnt even have a ring and would not be proposing.  I was devistated thinking it was only days away.  Turns out when he bought a suit for my sisters wedding only a month before that ate a huge chunk into his ring fund.  As of now I sit ringless still, but now the timeline is by his sister’s wedding in a few months.  

      And now I am experiencing a medical scare (possibly multiple sclerosis) and it has just thrown me through a loop.  I just want to spend forever with him, all the bells and whistles don’t seem necessary right now.

    Post # 8
    3968 posts
    Honey bee

    I had a timeline.  I shared my timeline with him.  I thought he was onboard with my timeline.  It became OUR timeline.  But, you know what?  It was really just MY timeline.

    Hang in there and kudos to you for deciding NOT to talk about it.  Totally wise move, IMO.

    Post # 10
    228 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Our timeline was originally before the end of 2010. Then because of layoffs, it was pushed back to “sometime in January,” then “sometime in January or February.” Now it’s supposed to be the first half of March. Considering we’ve decided we want to get married this September, he’d better hurry up!

    Post # 11
    1182 posts
    Bumble bee

    We had a timeline of “in the spring sometime” but we got engaged in January, so it was way before the deadline πŸ™‚ Not that I’m complaining…

    Post # 12
    813 posts
    Busy bee

    I keep telling myself I’m going to be good and then I read something on here and immediately tell boyfriend about it. Or I find some cool wedding idea and tell him. I’m not very good at not talking about it.

    But I will try to help you πŸ˜€

    Post # 13
    3997 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    All my SO has told me is that it’ll happen before 2013 πŸ™ haha I’m pretty sure it’ll happen this year or early 2012 because he wants to buy a car together early 2013 but said we have to be engaged first. I’m not sure, somedays he says “soon” and other days its not going to be “as soon as I think”. Definitely frustrating!

    Post # 14
    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We don’t have a timeline for an engagement. We went ring shopping and discussed getting married in summer of 2012, but that’s about it. I sort of have a timeline in my head -if it doesn’t happen by then, then I’m going to have a discussion (or meltdown!) with him about it. I’ve been pretty good at not bringing up the subject – so we’ll see how it goes. The wait has been difficult – so I know how you feel! I’m trying to keep busy and coming here is helping too!

    Post # 15
    2620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    No timeline for us.

    But we had talked about it. So we knew that both of our feelings were mutual.

    Hang in there. Remember your mantra πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
    1338 posts
    Bumble bee

    The bee has been good to keep many an impaitent waiter from unnecessary pestering. YOU CAN DO IT! WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!

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