(Closed) No timeline?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Was/Is there a timeline?

    There was a timeline, and we stuck to it!

    There was a timeline, but it wasn't adhered to.

    There was no timeline, we agreed that when it felt right it would happen.

    We haven't even talked about getting married.

    It was a total surprise. I had no clue he even wanted to marry me.

    We have a timeline, and the deadline hasn't come yet!

  • Post # 32
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    61 posts
    Worker bee

    @Taylor4:

    Hi Taylor!  7 years is a long time!  What is going on in your life that it is taking so long?  Did you start dating really young or have things just been coming up?  I think at the point you are at it sounds like you have a right to mention a little something something every once in a while 🙂  7 years has earned you that right!  I think I am TOO good at not saying anything. I talk to my friends about it and they are good at giving me “pep” talks to keep me patient but I hope by me not saying anything at all to my SO he isnt thinking it’s not important or not an issue for me. 

    Post # 33
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    575 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @BOSOX11: Haha it is a long time! We did start dating young (at least young for me) around 23. I wasn’t really thinking about marriage until around year 4 in the relationship so that means I’ve been waiting about 3 years now. Part of the problem was that when I started thinking marriage he had just started a getting an advanced degree while still working full time; I think that took up most of his mental processes. 

    Part of the wait too though is probably because I never brought it up. I had this idea that I wanted it to be something he brought up all by himself and that it would be a surprise. Well around year 5 I realized I was probably kidding myself and if he hadn’t brought it up by then I could be waiting even longer. He tells me it’s going to happen, but has never given me a date before so I’m hoping this time it’s it. 

    Post # 34
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    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @MissHoneyBun: I’m sure I would feel a lot differently if I was in a similar situation that didn’t work out also! I bet you’re glad that it led you to your current relationship though. It’s good that you talked it through with him, I think that our guys seem very similar!

    Post # 35
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    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @MissHoneyBun:

    Your situation is so similar to mine. we are living together now, but had originally talked about getting engaged first. it just felt right, and our lives pushed us together to move in. it’s been great!

    Just go with the flow if you can, It gets difficult at times when you get excited and carried away.

    He gave me the go ahead to start planning our wedding, I get ahead of myself all the time. It’ll happen though, especially if he’s ok talking about a future with you!

    Post # 36
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    1596 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Well Misshoneybun, I waited a very long time, 8.5 years b4 he proposed we got married just b4 our 10 year anniversary. I always thought (and assumed he thought) that we would get married after we ticked some boxes.

    1. I finished my degree – Finished it in November 2006.
    2. We bought a house – Bought our house in October 2007.
    3. I had a good job in chosen field – well due to a series of unfortunate events and some procrastination I was still working in the shop I worked at in uni untill January 2010. 

    So by the end of 2008 (2 years after fin my degree and and 8 years into our relationship) I figured to out of 3 aint bad and felt it was about time he popped the question, this combined with everyman and his dog getting married including his brother who had know his SO for 2 min, started to really upset me. I had had enough and started the nagging.

    By Feb 2009 I had given up, I was over it, whatever.

    Then in April 2009 he proposed and I was so shocked. I guess we were in the same book but he was a couple of chapters behind.

    I think there should be another option….

    There was a timeline but DH was not au fait

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