(Closed) No unity/candle or sand ceremony…what to do?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m not doing sand/candles either.We haven’t really thought about alternatives yet though, I’m excited to see where this goes!

Post # 4
5544 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

This may sound totally weird to other people but, we are actually having our dads give a “blessing” in the ceremony. If you are up on your Old Testament history, it was THE thing to do on a big occation in your children’s life, their father blessed them. And in keeping with that tradition they are both going to say something to the effect of “so proud, want the best” ect. It should be fun since we are both close to our fathers. I’ve also seen people on here talk about a “Wine Box” ceremony where you write love letters and put wine in a box and lock it and either on a specific aniv or if you ever have marital issues you open it, read the letters about why you love each other and drink a glass. 

Post # 6
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ididn’t do sand or candles either, and my ceremony was 20min:

1 Scripture reading by Maid/Matron of Honor

2 Poems read by Sisters

1 Blessing by Grandmother

Minister Vows portion was about 10 min because he talked about marriage, love, read the vows, then announced us.

You can always ask your minister to give you a ceremony template.  You’ll be surprised how much longer your ceremony will be.

Post # 7
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We did a reading of a children’s book.  It worked out great!

Post # 8
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We did a handfasting using a wreath of flowers. It was amazing! Our photogs said it was one of their favorite ceremonies they had ever seen.

Post # 9
645 posts
Busy bee

@crh1729:Date twin! I’m in the same boat. I’m keeping an eye on this thread! 

Post # 10
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@pccl: I know some bees have done a wine box ceremony, or a tree planting ceremony.

Post # 11
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re in the same boat here, and since we’re getting married at a winery we felt that a wine box/love letter ceremony would be appropriate. We’re also having quite a few friends and family do readings throughout the whole ceremony (we’re doing a self-uniting ceremony so there will be no officiant to “move things along” so to speak).

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