MemberI’m not a fan of unity candles or sand, but I want something to do in the middle of our ceremony. There will be a band playing for music, our minister will do vows and scripture and we might have a reading…but what else can we do to make sure our cermemony isn’t 10 mins long?
MemberI’m not doing sand/candles either.We haven’t really thought about alternatives yet though, I’m excited to see where this goes!
MemberThis may sound totally weird to other people but, we are actually having our dads give a “blessing” in the ceremony. If you are up on your Old Testament history, it was THE thing to do on a big occation in your children’s life, their father blessed them. And in keeping with that tradition they are both going to say something to the effect of “so proud, want the best” ect. It should be fun since we are both close to our fathers. I’ve also seen people on here talk about a “Wine Box” ceremony where you write love letters and put wine in a box and lock it and either on a specific aniv or if you ever have marital issues you open it, read the letters about why you love each other and drink a glass.
MemberI’ve searched for some…foot washing, hand fasting, etc. Nothing seems to fit us. If we play a song in the middle, I don’t want to just stand there, ya know? Everything seems silly to me! Maybe I’m over thinking it.
MemberIdidn’t do sand or candles either, and my ceremony was 20min:
1 Scripture reading by Maid/Matron of Honor
2 Poems read by Sisters
1 Blessing by Grandmother
Minister Vows portion was about 10 min because he talked about marriage, love, read the vows, then announced us.
You can always ask your minister to give you a ceremony template. You’ll be surprised how much longer your ceremony will be.
HostessWe did a reading of a children’s book. It worked out great!
MemberWe did a handfasting using a wreath of flowers. It was amazing! Our photogs said it was one of their favorite ceremonies they had ever seen.
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MemberWe’re in the same boat here, and since we’re getting married at a winery we felt that a wine box/love letter ceremony would be appropriate. We’re also having quite a few friends and family do readings throughout the whole ceremony (we’re doing a self-uniting ceremony so there will be no officiant to “move things along” so to speak).
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