Post # 1
We’re thinking of not having ushers at our wedding. We really didn’t want to have to make anyone do this job and we don’t really think it’s necessary. Have you seen any weddings where there aren’t ushers? I haven’t been to many weddings so I really don’t know.
Will people just seat themselves or will they be confused about what side to sit on? We don’t care about the “groom’s side, bride’s side” thing.
Also, do we need people to seat our mothers and grandmothers?
All of this wedding stuff confuses me! Any advice or help would be appreciated!
Post # 3
We didn’t have ushers (DH didn’t want any) and I regret it to this day! I didn’t push it because I figured people could figure out where to sit. But, the problem was – people were scared to sit close to the front on DH’s side – and there were all these empty pews in the front and the back was WAY too smooshed.
It annoys me every time I see a picture of the ceremony that shows the view of the pews.
I’d have a couple friends help escort people to their seats and fill in any gaps.
I’d also do a processional for the mom’s and the gmas. And, yes – it would be nice for them to be escorted down the center aisle. Either by their husband – or, for your mom, if you have a brother that could be nice…. it doesn’t really matter who does the escorting.
Post # 4
We didn’t have ushers, (actually I didn’t even think about ushers). People just sat themselves whereever they wanted. Most people know how to take a seat. they’ve done it before 😉 don’t over think it.
just wanted to add that we had a few seats reserved at the front for specific people. Everyone else filled in the seat behind the reserved sections without a problem.
My grandpa escourted my grandmother down the aisle, (her husband). DH’s mom walked down the aisle with Darling Husband and his dad and my mom walked me down the aisle along with my dad.
Post # 5
2 of our Groomsmen will serve as ushers but they wont be called that. Also we are having a wedding planner who can help decrease confusion.
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice! It’s just a little detail that’s bugging me and I’m not sure how we’ll handle it yet.
I’ve thought about using the groomsmen as ushers but our photographer will be taking pictures before the ceremony and I’m not sure if there will be enough time for them to do both!