Post # 196
miabear1989 : well the caterer said they could accommodate food allergies at no cost, or depending on the request, a minimal charge. $100 per request does not seem “free” or “minimal” to me.
What if you say that they also have a dairy allergy? Perhaps the caterer would be more likely to make a pasta dish without dairy if its an “allergy”?
I don’t understand why they are being so picky. Yes that dish does sound yummy, but it doesnt work for your guests. Its just not that hard to make a tomato sauce instead of a cream sauce and buy a differentt ype of ravioli (I’d doubt they are making it fresh anyways).
Post # 197
You don’t know her life. They could have saved diligently to save up for the wedding.
Someone else could have helped them pay as well.
Everyone on here will tell a bee to leave her man if he delays a proposal for financial reasons because thats just an excuse and you dont need much money to be engaged or married. Yettttttt they will be the first ones to jump on a bee who doesnt have $ to go above and beyond for her guests. OK then.
Post # 198
You have mentioned before that you believe you can bring in outside food. I’m not sure if you’ve asked your caterer or if you are just assuming based on your reading of the contract and the venue rules.
I recommend explicitly confirming this with your caterer. In my experience it’s very unusual for a caterer to allow you to provide outside or third party food. They don’t want to assume potential liability in case there are issues with food poisoning or having people assume they are to “blame” if the outside food is not tasty, or in case a guest finds something in the outside food that should not be there (ie, hair, insect, etc).
Post # 199
If it’s not in the contract, I doubt the caterer can stop her from bringing in outside food.
Post # 200
I know this thread is going in circles, but it’s SO annoying all the people on here telling this girl what she can and cant afford and how she should spend her money. Its easy (but super RUDE) to tell people how to spend their money, just because she spent X amount of money on catering and is hosting a nice wedding doesn’t mean she has a few hundred dollars laying around to pay for three vegan meals.
Post # 201
You seem very conscientious, and way more patient than I am! I know your wedding will be perfect.
Post # 202
I think I said this before, but if the caterer can’t/won’t work with you to provide 3 vegan meals at a reasonable cost, I think you should ask them to at least warm/plate the vegan entrees you bring in from outside. If you request it in a nice/reasonable tone hopefully they will be professional about it. And put someone else in charge of ordering and picking up the meals.
Our caterer was very happy to adjust our vegetarian option for our 1 vegan guest (ours was easier though, I think they just had to omit the cheese and it was vegan) but I also asked my stepmom, who was picking up our small cutting cake and assorted treats for our dessert buffet, to get a few vegan desserts and have them boxed separately for him.