(Closed) No vegan option on our menu?

posted 1 year ago in Food
Post # 121
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

futureslindy :  Nope, I posted earlier with the same thought.  I found the gesture to be super presumptuous.

The dinner situation at my reception is a bit different – we have no dining options on the RSVP because it’s a fixed menu with a built-in vegetarian option that one can request.  There is buffer for special requests like allergies or religious observances.  I don’t have any known vegans on my guest list, but we do have a few vegetarians, a couple folks who keep kosher, and at least one with severe food allergies.  It’s simply on them to ask the servers to be accommodated.

As much as I’d be annoyed with guests pulling the write-in options, I’d still put forth a reasonable effort to get them something to eat.  Maybe call the vegan you’re closest to and talk about some options?

 

Post # 122
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Helper bee

OP-  as you noted in your prior response “But the $100 we have left is after we allotted for things like any potential tips, 2-3 extra meals, transportation, any emergencies on the day of. ”

You are the one stating all of this? That your tips, plus extra meals, plus any emergencies are to all be covered by $100? Additionally, aren’t you currently having an unexpected emeregency cost currently with your vegan meals, which you cannot afford (which the cost is truly unjustified but however exist)I am not trying to be combative here! I just don’t think you are seeing the larger issue multiple bees are kindly and helpfully trying assist with. 

ETA-  or do you mean you have 2 emergency funds and the 2nd one is the $100?

Post # 123
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Worker bee

“But the $100 we have left is after we allotted for things like any potential tips, 2-3 extra meals, transportation, any emergencies on the day of. ”

 

I’m totally reading this as she’s already covered that extra stuff. She then has another $100 to play with after that. 

 

I think we’re taking too much time with this $100 thing. I’m sure she knows what she’s doing. She came here for advice about the price of the vegan options her caterer offered. 

 

OP – I’d order take out for their meals since the caterer is being so ridiculous. I’m vegeterian which really is absolutely no big deal (neither is veganism) however seeing as he needs to “prepare” to make a vegan meal, I would not trust him to properly adhere by the restrictions. Plus, even as a vegeterian, I’m just happy to be fed. It doesn’t have to be some crazy elaborate thing. Just food that doesn’t have the things I don’t eat in it. You know. So I don’t die. That’s all. I’m sure they are more concerned with actually being there to celebrate with you instead of worrying about what vegan meal you’re offering. 

Post # 125
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Helper bee

Beebee147-  then shouldn’t there be funds to ensure all guests eat?  In her earlier post she said  of its $300 for the vegan meals and she’s has to pay $500 for student loans, guess which wins

Yes the meals are over priced, and a lot of good alternative solutions have been offered, but the issue regarding the finances is everyone needs to be served a meal and the host needs to be able to cover that cost regardless what it may end up being, and the op is saying it’s not an option.

Post # 126
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Helper bee

OP-  thanks for the clarification!  I think you need to be open to the fact you may have to use some of those emegency funds to cover the vegan meals if no alternative solution can be accomplished

Post # 128
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Helper bee

As the host of your wedding, yes, you must use your money to ensure all guests have a meal they can eat, to eat. Like in multiple pp, the vegan meals may be necessary for allergies, illness, or a multitude of health issues.  When it comes to weddings, so much is over priced and inflated, and no one is denying these caterers are right there in that game and it’s not right.  But you signed the contract with them and if you can’t bring in 3rd party meals, you must pay for those catered vegan meals.

Post # 129
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Bumble Beekeeper

miabear1989 :  On principle no you shouldn’t have to use your funds that way, but it’s good to know you could as a last resort. I really want you to go back to the caterer and try to reason with them because the more I think about it, this is just insane. Veganism is not some obscure “preference” as a few pp have implied, and it’s not hard to slap together a vegan pasta dish or some kind of rice and bean dish. If they refuse to budge, I would seriously rip them apart in onilne reviews after your wedding. And I would do as everyone else has suggested and bring food from outside in for these three guests. 

I also don’t blame these guests at all for writing in “vegan” on their response – how is that any different than emailing the OP directly about it? It’s still a private communication. If I were hosting an event, I’d be mortified if I found out that I had a vegan guest who was too meek to tell me about their dietary needs and then starved at my wedding cause I didn’t offer any vegan options.

Post # 132
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Bumble bee

miabear1989 :  I’m sorry PPs feel the need to crucify you because you’re not living up to their standards of being a good hostess.  

Post # 133
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Helper bee

miabear1989 :  talk to the caterer and negotiate. Talk to the venue and see exactly what can be done to get 3rd party vegan meals in.  Stress ALL options before spending another penny!  No one isn’t telling you to just shrug at this and write a check without speaking up.

I paid for my girls hair and makeup, and one of them told me they were doing their own.  Day of, as the MUA and hair stylists shuffled is around and moved from head to head, the girl who said she was doing her own received both hair and makeup services which were I had already prepaid. These types costs WILL come up, and you need to be okay with knowing you will have to spend your own money 

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