Post # 1
My husband and I are RSVP-ing yes to a wedding, but I don’t eat meat or fish and there is no vegetarian option on the RSVP card. I am thinking I’ll write (1) next to “Beef” for him and under “Dietary Restrictions” (1) Vegetarian. However, this feels a bit problematic because I am unilaterally creating a meal option that isn’t provided.
What do you all think? How do I respond?
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
happycamper32 : I did not include an entree selection ony m RSVP card at all – but I assumed that should anyone have restrictions they would just write it on the RSVP card for me to accomodate.
I think it would be safe of you to write you would like to request a Vegetarian option for your meal. I definitely wouldnt be offended.
It is likely they assumed someone would just write down if they required a vegetarian or vegan option if needed.
Post # 3
Just write that you need a vegetarian meal. They must have expected a few happycamper32 :
Post # 4
They’ve provided a space on the rsvp card for dietary restrictions, so I’d just write it there that you’re a vegetarian and not check the seafood or meat option.
Post # 5
I think writing “vegetarian” in the dietary restrictions section is exactly what you should do because those are your dietary restrictions. I’m sure they don’t expect you to go without food because you don’t eat meat.
Post # 6
happycamper32 : Yeah, just don’t check either and write vegetarian. Whoever is catering their wedding should be able to put together a couple of vegetarian meals just as easily as they can put together meals for people with dietary restrictions such as allergies to nuts, etc.
Post # 7
The dietary restrictions is where you are suppose to write vegetarian.
Post # 8
That’s what the “dietary restrictions” area is for.
Post # 9
put your husband’s initials next to beef, if that’s what he wants.
under dietary restrictions, put your initials and vegatarian.
don’t overcomplicate it.
Post # 10
Yes, what you were thinking to do is fine.
They don’t provide a vegetarian option becasue that would mean offering 3 main dishes that anyone could choose, at an extra expense. They’ve given you space to write in with dietary restrictions for those who aren’t accommodated by either of the two main entrees. It’s understood that most caterers will provide a vegetarian/vegan/allergen free option to those who need it (without it being charged as adding an extra meal option).
Post # 11
A vegetarian option is a prime example of what is meant by “dietary restriction.”
Post # 12
futuremrs2020 and browneyedgirl24 : You both addressed my main concerns that by asking for something “off-menu,” the couple would be charged extra by the caterer to create a new entree. It is helpful to know what the norm is for the future. Much appreciated!
Post # 13
My venue actually specifically requested that I did not offer vegetarian on my RSVP card and just put dietary restrictions. Their reasoning was that because they charge by meal options (each choice offered incurrs a cost), the vegetarian was not really an option, it was an accomodation which they account for differently (no extra cost if it doesn’t exceed 10%), so just know that it’s not because your hosts were trying to make you feel bad about it.
Post # 14
happycamper32 : this happened to me at my best guy friends wedding. I just wrote vegetarian and they accommodated. I think it’s somewhat common for people to not note a place for dietary restrictions because frankly, they aren’t that concerned. It’s definitely not a big deal to insert tour veggie needs and as a pp said, it is expected there will be someone(s) who is a non meat eater.
ETA: I just noticed the dietary restrictions line on the card- yes, this is exactly what it is for- people like you! You’re all good to go!
Post # 15
happycamper32 : Definitely write in the dietary restrictions section! For my wedding, our venue would charge us $3 more per person to include a third option. We have several vegetarian guests (including my dad) and we worked out the vegetarian meal (eggplant parm) ahead of time, along with gluten free and other options, but are fully expecting guests to include vegetarian under dietary restriction. It just saved us a lot of money not to make it an “official” option.