Post # 1
Okay ladies, I need your help! I originally felt that I would rather not have a veil. Anytime I say this, people go crazy and say "Oh of COURSE you want a veil! You have to have one! You’ll regret it if you don’t! You could do a simple one! How about this? or this? or that?!" My head is spinning. People say I won’t look like a bride without one. Is there anyone else not doing a veil or contemplating this dilemma? When I started there was no question…I knew I didn’t want one…but the peer pressure is getting to me, and my wedding’s in a month! My dress is lacy and detailed and has a low v-neck back. I kinda feel like a veil takes away from it and it’s too much and, though it looks like a bride, it doesn’t look like me. I’m so confused! HELP!
Post # 3
I am not having a veil, much to the dismay of the old European ladies who sold me my dress. I am having my hair up, and I have a beautiful hair piece that has gold and white ceramic flowers on it. I am also wearing no necklace but loooong classic earrings. Do what makes you feel happy! And be yourself – I knew I didn’t want a veil from the beginning, tried a few on, but didn’t change my mind. Just be yourself 🙂
Post # 4
I was set on not having a veil and everyone was ok with that. I went dress shopping for the first time Saturday and found "the one". I loved it and it was perfect without a veil. Then I put one on for the heck of it and liked it as well.
My dress is also sort of lacy with the v back and I thought the same thing… that the veil almost takes away from the dress.
To me it sounds like you don’t want one and the only reason you would have one is to please other people. Trust me, I know where you are coming from! But really, no one is going to think you look like anything less than a beautiful bride at your wedding! If you feel it takes away from your dress and that you would feel like you are comprimising by wearing it, then don’t.
Post # 5
Thanks! I think I’ll stick to my guns on this one. Now I’m curious, Littlebear, if you and I might have the same dress, haha. If it’s Casablanca Bridal, it may very well be. I’m doing my hair in a half updo ’cause the fiance loves it down and i tuck it behind my ears out of habit (not such a good look on the wedding day, haha!), and it’s a pretty fancy look. I think it’ll stand alone by itself. Though now my mom’s insisting that if i don’t wear a veil, I "simply must" put flowers or decorative bobby pins or something in it. Sigh……….
Post # 6
Don’t wear a veil if you don’t want to. My sister would up not wearing a veil, which was good, because it was windy and her dress sounds pretty similar to yours – detailed back and a veil wouldn’t have looked as good. I’m pretty sure nobody at the wedding even realized she wasn’t wearing a veil. You will look beautiful and happy nobody will notice.
When people ask, instead of saying you aren’t wearing a veil, say something like, "its taken care of" or "I don’t want to ruin the surprise."
Post # 7
As an encore bride to be, this is not something I plan to do. I am making my gown and look about who I am. I’m hoping for a half up do (there’s a gorgeous blonde in the maggie sottero catalog with the hair I’m going to do) and I want either a fresh flower (magnolia) or a stunning flower with jewels (silk).
Post # 8
I’m in the same boat. I never really thought about having a veil until others insisted that I must have one. So far I’m still on the no-veil route. If you’re just wearing it to appease others, then I say leave it out. I’m sure you’ll be just as beautiful without it 🙂
Post # 9
I’m not having a veil at all. I’ve never wanted one. I’ve been firm from the beginning. However I’m entertaining the idea of having a birdcage or a semi-elaborate hairpiece beside my bun.
There are so many other things you can do (or not do), I totally say stick to your guns!!
Post # 10
I’m not having one and thankfully, all my friends (and BM’s AND Fiance) support that. =)
Go with what you want – it’s YOUR day after all!
Post # 11
You bees are awesome! I’m going with what I want!
Post # 12
It’s your day! well… his too… But the hubby wants you to be happy. If you’re not feeling the veil. It’s OK. My problem was wanting a veil but no tiara. My soon to be auntie made me a double layer veil. I wanted a double for height. She thought I wanted it so that my dad could do the whole veil lifting thing but that was not me. I kept going back and forth over it (by myself.) I did not want to hurt her feelings b/c that was all she could talk about. At the end I ended up walking down the aisle w/o the veil covering my face. People still cried and we called it a day. Ha ha… Oh and the whole tiara thing that everybody kept pushing for… mostly my mom. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I went to the dress store to pick up our dresses (they pressed it) she tried on some tiaras for fun and so I joined her. There was one that she stuck on me and I knew it was the one. LOL It had a comb so it stuck to my hair better. Bonus! It was the last one of that style so I got half off! Talk about last minute. I’m glad I got it.
Bottom line: I went with what I was comfortable with. People will just be happy for you and your husband. G-Luck!
Post # 13
I didn’t have a veil. I had two fresh flowers in my hair and that was it. I felt great! There’s no way you can be in a wedding dress with you hair and makeup done and not feel “bridal”.
Post # 14
I have also been saying that I dont’ want a veil and then I read in some bridal magazine somewhere that before you rush to the decision not to remember its the only chance you’ll ever have to wear one. And now I’m torn….
Post # 15
I’m a no veil bride! With a lacy dress & unique back! My family was pretty disappointed. There were concerns that I wouldn’t look like a bride, which were mostly squashed by me wearing a silk flower.
My fiance, however, thinks veils look hilarious. He’s a very logical person and insists they have no function. Can’t argue that!
Yes, they can look lovely flowing in the wind…but all feminist reasons aside, I have a nagging feeling that veils (at least the elbow-length kind) may go out of fashion. I mean, look at the ’40s. That said, I think bird cage veils are pretty cute, despite their lack of “function.”
Bottom line: I didn’t give into the peer pressure and I’m so glad. You’ll never regret going with your gut 🙂
Post # 16
You don’t have to wear a veil or a flower or a headband or have an updo or get your hair did or do anything that doesn’t feel like you. Weddings aren’t about wearing the right thing. They’re about getting married! 🙂
Here’s me. No veil. Not tiara. Feathery headband. Some people might have thought it was wrong but it was just right for me. And at the end of the day no one will be talking about what you had on your head anyway.