Post # 1
I’m debating on the idea of having a wedding cake or not. I love cakes and sweets, but despite the cake being a deep rooted tradition in weddings I just cannot fathom spending that amount of money, not to mention I’m not really traditional anyways.
I’ve looked into other ideas like cupcakes, pies etc. and to me it’s just not important.
Do you think I can get away with just having the dessert that is included in my plated service? I think that the one dessert is sufficient, but maybe I’m wrong?
Post # 3
You could look into getting a small decorative cake and an inexpensive sheet cake to serve guests, if you do want a cake.
Post # 4
No one will miss it if it isn’t there. If cake isn’t important to you, then skip it. Don’t have something out of tradition to please everyone else if it has no meaning to you. One dessert is fine no matter what it is, and that is all that most weddings have and guests are perfectly happy with it.
Post # 5
As PPs have said – you can do whatever you want! If you don’t want one at all, cool. If you wanted to do one tier for you guys to cut and then serve sheet cake from the back, also fine. If you want to make your own (or have a family member/handy baker friend) then that is also fine.
The only reason we’re having a big one is because our baker is a friendor. We didn’t expect it, but she offered to do our cake for free as our wedding gift. 🙂 Otherwise we were talking about doing one small tier to cut, and serving sheet cake from the kitchen. 🙂
Post # 6
Hello! Sometimes the venues just include the cake as part of the cost. I personally hate cake, but i know that some people just really enjoy the look of it. But i think you can accomplish the same effect with cute cupcakes! however i don’t know how expensive cupcakes are…. i just tasted the most amazing teeny tiny bite sized cupcakes that I think i will be ahving at my wedding. they come in tons of flavors, and they’re literally bite sized -and normally i take little tiny bites! I know that guests would really really love it if you baked your own cake! That would be inexpensive and really cool i think!
Post # 7
I would miss the cake but that’s because I’m obsessed with cake and make the effort to look for it everywhere I go. But if you offer another dessert I’m sure your guests will be just as happy!
Post # 8
We did an individual dessert (flourless chocolate torte) served plated by the caterers, mainly because (a) the cake was not important to me (I have always hated wedding cakes and just eat a bite or two to be polite) and (b) my husband is gluten-intolerant and trying to find a good-tasting gluten-free cake just seemed like more hassle than we wanted. I really loved having a more upscale dessert, and no one complained about lack of cake.
Post # 9
Fiance and I hate cake, we’re doing individual strawberry friut tarts. I always knew that I never wanted cake and fruit tarts are FI’s favorite, so I knew that would be it. We’re also cutting a small fruit tart! Some people don’t like this idea, but it totally works for us. They’ll fall in love with them at the wedding once they taste their awesomeness!
Post # 10
I’m a big fan of not having cake at a wedding. I really don’t see what could be so exciting about cutting into a cake as your first act as husband and wife.
Unfortunately, my venue doesn’t have a dessert course, so we have to get a cake… how ironic!
Post # 11
@winerygirl, you are not required to get cake. What other dessert do you and your guests like? The possibilities are endless that can be brought in: cookies, pies, cheesecake, ice cream, etc.
Post # 12
This is a good point. I do like cake in itself, but I just don’t get the symbolism of cutting a cake when you have another dessert already. I suggested to Fiance that we just get a sheet cake (it would cost sooo much less), but he quite likes the idea of having a fancy cake, so we’re getting one. There isn’t much that he’s fussed about in terms of the wedding, so when he asks for things occasionally, I try to give them to him.
Post # 13
I am wondering the same thing, though I actually don’t care about the tradition, its more that Fiance surprised me by actually caring…
Basically in my spare time I make cakes. I have made others bday cakes, wedding cakes, baby shower cakes etc. It seems bizarre to me that I would pay someone else to make MY cake. However, I am in no way gonna spend the entire day or two before my own wedding elbow deep in fondant.
I figured – no cake…Fiance says, “but but but what about the cake cutting picture” ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? of all the things of the wedding this is what you want so badly?!? So, I decided – I’ll make a fake cake weeks in advance and just a 6×6 top that is real. This way I don’t need to freak out and stress about a big cake and he gets to cut a piece. If you knew my Fiance you’d be just as floored…I would never think he’d give a crap about this…who knew?!?
Post # 14
Persoanlly i would miss it if i didnt have a cake. whenever i go to a wedding i look for the cake.
if you do want a cake, it doesnt have to cost the earth though, supermarkets do them very reasonably priced. thats where mine is coming from , and i am just buying 2 tiers, and adding flowers around it …..total cost…£30 ($50) and thats for the cake AND the flowers.
Post # 15
Seriously! I have said this time and time again.. I am not going to have a wedding cake. My fiance and I do not like sweets… and there is NO way I am paying that much money for one! And my venue you have to use there services for all food and beverage.. NO way!
I think my mom thinks I am kidding.. but seriously, even though they are paying this is something I dont think is needed. just because its tradition? noooo.. we are paying for a NICE dinner and everything…
Older folks seem to think I am stupid.. BUT really! I am not going to have one! 🙂 I would rather just get a fake cake for the sake of pictures! haha.. PLUS it gets rid of the … You better not put cake on my face or dress talk! hahaha 🙂
Post # 16
If you don’t like cake that much, then don’t have one! I’m sure most people won’t even realize you don’t have one until they start rehashing the wedding. As long as you serve some sort of dessert it will be fine. Save the money, don’t regret buying something you don’t even like.