Post # 1
We are having a cocktail attire wedding – not too fancy, not too casual. I was not planning on providing any favors. I’m ok with skipping them, but I’m not sure if that’s an etiquette faux-pas for a semi-formal event?
Also, the day after the wedding we are having a super casual pool party. For the pool party we are providing towels (to keep) and sunglasses. Is it ok if I do that instead of a wedding favor?
Is it bad that the semi-formal event has no favors and the causal event does have them?
Will anyone even care?
Post # 2
No one will care. It’s not a faux pas at all not to have favors. Actually, the reception is considered the way you thank your guests for attending. You don’t need to provide favors in addition to everything else you’re providing.
Post # 3
Nope, don’t bother.
I’d also say to skip the sunglases – I wear prescriptions ones. And not everyone will go into the pool, or take a towel, so prepare to have some left over.
Post # 4
Favors were the first thing I cut from the list when I saw our budget. I think they are completely unnecessary. Especially the trend of having edible favors I just don’t get. The bride and groom are paying for a meal to thank all their guests and they paid for everyone to eat a chocolate truffle or something as well? Just strange to me. I think what you have planned sounds just fine bee. I don’t think anyone will care!!
Post # 5
I think favors are usually left anyway, they’re really not worth it in my opinion honestly. We’re skipping favors and we’re doing a candy buffet instead. The guests can snack all they want and take home goodie bags they can fill themselves. We’re closing them with custom stickers we made thanking them with our wedding date on them. Simple and sweet. And whatever’s left, my other half would love to enjoy himself, haha.
Post # 6
we did matchbooks with our last initial and wedding date – cheap and practical. Some people took them and some didnt, but they’ll get used by us so no waste!
Post # 7
We didn’t have favours and nobody cared. My parents still have favours from weddings a decade ago that they feel too guilty to throw out but also don’t want, they live in the storage room.
Post # 8
No ones cares about favors. They are not an etiquette issue at all. We skipped them and I had a formal evening wedding. The pool party things sound cute though!
Post # 9
Excellent!! I will not feel bad for skipping favors!
I totally agree! We have about 130 guests, but we think about half will go swimming. So I’m ordering fewer towels. The sunglasses are only $1 each (buy in bulk!) so I’m ok with it if they’re tossed after a few uses. And we’re not putting our name or weding date on any of it, just plain towels and plain sun glasses.
matches are a good idea! We had considered doing a cigar roller but we dropped it to save on the budget. But if someone did do a cigar bar, then matchboxes would be the obvious choice. I’m going to file that away for a later date.
Post # 10
I’m glad to hear so many people are okay with skipping favors, because we’re planning on skipping them as well. One wedding I went to did a donation to their favorite charity instead of favors, so if (by the grace of God) we end up under budget, I may do that.
Post # 11
Yes we are skipping favors.
Post # 12
Skip them. We didn’t do a “normal” favor. We had a photobooth and paid a little extra so everyone could have a copy of thier photobooth pictures. People love them and take them home with them unlike your normal favors that you will end up with tons left over. Obviously, do as you wish, but no one will miss them I’m sure.
Post # 13
We are just doing a photobooth and debating whether to include little frames to take home or not. I personally forget about favors and leave them 90% of the time.
Post # 14
We had favors, and I still think they are the biggest waste of money and most useless thing ever. Our favors were a huge hit and we had NONE left over, that being said, I would have been perfectly fine not doing them. We actually weren’t going to do them, and then DH had an idea that he wanted to have some famous candy/popcorn favors from a place in his hometown that’s really well-known. We literally ordered them at the last minute, so last minute the the ILs had to bring them into town with them because we didn’t want to take the chance of having them shipped. Everyone loved them but I honestly don’t think they would have missed them if we didn’t have any. As a wedding photographer, I see it at every wedding…..70% of the favors never even get taken unless it’s a GOOD food item (think NOT almonds…lol) or something people use, like koozies.
Post # 15
I had favors at my first wedding and almost no one took them home. I’ve noticed the trend is to send something home with people that will end up being clutter to them. If its not useful or edible just skip it. No one will notice.