(Closed) No wedding gift for Bride & Groom..?!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

The memory book would be your gift. If you are including the hen’s stuff you should probably contact a groomsman and get some pictures/memories from the bucks night as well since it is a book of memories of them as a couple.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I feel like the momery book is a fine gift. That will be something to look at forever while money comes and goes.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would be ok with you not giving a gift. My bridal party have done heaps for me including trips for shopping trips for crafting planning my hens and ive offered to contribute but they declined. After everything they’ve done i dont expect a monetary gift on top 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think you’re doing more than enough and shouldn’t feel bad about not giving an additional $ gift.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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miss-sydneysider:  No need to explain anything. Just wrap the book up as you would any other gift. If you feel the need to do more include a hand written note about how much her friendship has meant and what watching them grow as a couple has meant to you. She should be so overwhelmed by the thoughtfulness of your gift to even think about monetary value.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

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miss-sydneysider:  I can’t imagine they would expect a gift considering you’re flying from Oz for the wedding. If you have the time a memory book sounds beautiful 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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miss-sydneysider:  i dont think it needs to be mentioned. Considering everything you’ve done i should think its expected to not receive a gift. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You’re already giving so much of your time and money, don’t worry! I’m sure she’ll love the memory book as well.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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miss-sydneysider:  OMG, no no no, do NOT go and explain to her why you won’t be giving money.  Just give her the memory book.  I am sure she will understand.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The thing as well is that while the bride and groom have requested money, it doesn’t mean that that is all they expect. I’m sure your gift will mean the world to them – especially considering you’re flying from Oz (hello fellow aussie?!) to be there. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

I agree with the other Bees, no need to tell her you aren’t giving them money and a memory book is a lovely idea. She’ll know that it is costing you a lot of money to be there.

I’m kind of intrigued about the honeymoon fund poem because I’ve got four friends getting married this year and three of them have used the same poem in their invites. I guess there is no eay way t ask for money!

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