Post # 1
I got married 2 weeks ago. It was a beautiful wedding and the guests exclaimed that it was the best they had been to. However my sister, who was also my Maid/Matron of Honor did not give a gift, nor did her boyfriend. She and my mother combined to give a great gift at my shower, but mmy mother paid for the shower and sent out all the invites. My sister really did not do any of the other Maid/Matron of Honor things, no toast, bachelorette party etc. My other sister and her husband came from very far away so I did not expect a gift from them. I also gave my sisters bridesmaid gifts a few days before the wedding. Am I being unreasonable in being really pissed off? My Maid/Matron of Honor sister also took the centerpiece and a whole bunch if true unclaimed favors .
Post # 3
for my 1st wedding my mom and dad (both remarried, btw) didn’t give me anything. i was pissed about that! i think your sister def should have given you something…
Post # 4
Your sister stood beside you while you made your vows: that is the minimum required of a Maid of Honour. Toasts and bachelorette parties are optional (and aren’t traditional anyway; they’re a recent innovation.) You got a “great gift” at your shower, which is nothing to sneeze at, especially since showers are also optional. And, I presume, you got a wonderful husband in the process who should be occupying the majority of your thoughts right now.
If you are angry, you are angry. It doesn’t matter whether you are unreasonable or not in being angry. Face it, and decide what to do about it. You can’t make your sister give you a gift. You can confront her, but you’ll look greedy and mean. You can wait until her wedding and retaliate — but you’ll look vindictive and mean. You can recite all your blessings — including the fact that you HAVE a sister to stand up with you — and try to let go of the anger. Don’t make yourself miserable by dwelling on your injustices.
Post # 6