(Closed) No wedding invite..

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I still be friends with the bride, or is this giving me the middle finger?
    Yes : (16 votes)
    29 %
    No : (39 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 46
    4505 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Glad you asked — now you know. I wouldn’t bother being friends with her any more.

    Post # 47
    532 posts
    Busy bee

    She sounds childish. I think you are better off without her. Enjoy your wedding and forget about hers!

    Post # 48
    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    tamara.rawhiti:  She seems like an unstable person. At this point in your life do you really want to deal with that?

    Post # 49
    4767 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Your poll makes no sense:

    Should I still be friends with the bride: NO

    or is this giving me the middle finger: YES

    Post # 50
    12291 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    She’s rude and completely wrong that anything has changed regarding inviting people to pre-wedding events and not the wedding. But on your end you were wrong to point out that she was rude and wrong! 

    I would not have put her on the spot by directly asking if I was invited, though it’s understandable why you thought you would be, considering. I also would not have said anything to her implying that inviting you to the other events was inappropriate. As we know, a lot of people are ignorant, but unfortunately, it wasn’t up to you to teach her the error of her ways.

    That said, after it became clear that you were good enough to invite to expensive events celebrating her upcoming nuptials but not good enough to be  invited to the wedding, I probably would have reconsidered the friendship.


    Post # 51
    329 posts
    Helper bee

    Bye Felicia!! Count yourself lucky before blowing all the money on her hen party!

    Post # 52
    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    wow. I can’t believe this woman could be this rude. I hope her soon to be husband knows what he is marrying. Dump her as a friend…her character is not someone you want to have in your life. 

    Post # 53
    275 posts
    Helper bee

    I feel if you still see her as a friend and really do not have any grudge towards her then you should still send her an invite for yours.


    If you are doing a close family and friends only, then no need.

    Post # 54
    1167 posts
    Bumble bee

    Can I just say, I cannot believe this is real life.  Every time I read something like this on the Bee, I start thinking: what a coincidence that a bunch of women with tremendously mean-spirited friends come together in the same site dedicated to weddings!

    The most obvious response is always: dump her as a friend!

    This site is a fascinating study!

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