Post # 1
Hi. my fiance and I are getting married on 9/30/18. This is our second marriage (his first actual wedding). We are in our 40’s and we have 3 boys each for a total of 6. They are 19, 18, 14, 12, 9 and 8. I want our wedding to be about our families joining.. not a wedding party. I dont want a flower girl or bridemaids or groomsman. Everyone thinks I’m nuts. It is a formal wedding setting. Any ideas on how I can pull this off?
Post # 2
They could each read out part of a reading during the ceremony or speeches, I’m sure you could find a relevant reading.
Post # 3
Although my kids are much Younger (3&6) i agree 100%.. the big wedding was beautiful and I thought it was what mattered but when it all comes down to it, it’s about the person you’re marrying and the family that’s becoming one. This will be my second wedding and my fiancé’s first, we are doing a private ceremony and then a “dinner/reception after”
i like the idea of them doing a reading, or walking you down and giving your away. I asked my daughter to be my maid of honor and my fiancé asked my son to be his best man.
Post # 4
A reading is a lovely idea. Please would you clarify for people if you want it to be an official joining thing or do you just mean for the boys to accept the marriage? Because if you don’t want it to be a wedding thing where they stand up with you or sit at the wedding table then it seems like something that could be achieved outside of the wedding. I think a day away with bonding activities and lots of food and sharing would be best on a family level. I can’t think of anything appropriate for the actual wedding otherwise, it seems counter-intuitive if you see what I mean.
They are of such differing ages that it becomes a tall order so I can see why you’re struggling! Could they all write down hopes and wishes and things they look forward to as a joined family and then pin them on branches of a tree so that they could read each other’s out or just let the guests read them at their leisure? That could be sweet if done right.