(Closed) No wedding party chosen and wedding is in 3 months….

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

It’s your wedding – do what YOU want to do!  There are no rules when it comes to the wedding party! 

Post # 4
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would do your close friend. Personally, I don’t think it matters if you were her Maid/Matron of Honor, unless it really did hurt your feelings that you weren’t hers. 

Your SIL obviously doesn’t want to, and your niece (IMO) wouldn’t be an appropriate choice. You might be putting your cousin out if you asked her to right now in this time of her life.

Good luck!

Post # 5
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Have whoever you want. Seems like you’re leaning towards your close friends but are hung up on a few facts.

Now, I think its weird to ask a friend over a sister but in your case I think a close friend is just as appropriate as a cousin or SIL.

Also, who cares that you weren’t her Maid/Matron of Honor. If you’re close enough to be in her wedding I think you’re fine! 4 of my bridesmaids are married and I was only in one of their weddings. I hestitated a moment about that because I initially thought “well they didn’t have me!” but who cares! I moved around my whole life and didn’t have longtime friends since childhood the way they did. So, just because you weren’t her Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t mean she can’t be yours.

Also, have as many or few ladies in your wedding as you like. There really is no normal anymore. I have 7 bridesmaids and every time I tell that to a vendor I get looks like I’m insane. I didn’t think it was that large until I started getting those looks but I don’t care 🙂


Good Luck!!!

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