(Closed) No Wedding "Party", just us.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
7440 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You can have her do a reading or make a toast at the reception.

You do you. If you do not want a wedding party that is fine, many forgo it. Not sure how that would make you a “horrible couple”. You are simply making the best choice for your situation, as we all do when planning a wedding.

Post # 3
13564 posts
Honey Beekeeper

All you need to get married is a fiancé.No, you are not horrible, nor is a wedding party some sort of obligation.

You could have just your parents and your niece stand up with you. Or just the parents if you think that will create drama and as mentioned, have your niece do a reading or give a toast.

Wedding parties do not have to be even. 

Post # 4
3649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Not a horrible couple at all. We’re not having a bridal party either. We didn’t want anyone standing up with us during the ceremony. 

As PP suggested, she could do a reading or give a speech. Also, since I’m not having a bridal party, but it was important to my mother to have my sisters be a part of the ceremony in some way, they’ll be escorting her down the aisle. Maybe she could do something similar? 

Post # 5
1195 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

One option to help her feel included but not necessarily be a member of the wedding party would be to ask if she’d like get ready with you the morning of the wedding- get your hair and makeup done together, etc. As others have suggested, having her do a reading would be a nice gesture as well. 


Post # 6
152 posts
Blushing bee

we’re not having a bridal party either!  I totally feel ya!

Post # 7
1885 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We didn’t have a bridal party, and I was really happy with that choice. Like you, I felt the day was really about my husband and me. We didn’t have any negative comments (at least that I know of) about our choice, and our wedding was really wonderful.

Post # 8
1440 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We had a flower girl and ring bearer – they walked down the aisle together then sat down with their parents. And that’s it. When I realized that we didn’t “HAVE TO” have a bridal party, it was such a relief. 

It was so perfect for us that I can’t imagine doing it any other way. 

Post # 9
1227 posts
Bumble bee

Having no bridal party was one of my favorite aspects of the wedding.

If you want to include your niece, ask her to do a reading or get ready with you. 

Post # 10
53 posts
Worker bee

I’m only having my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and my Fiance is having his bestfriend as Bridesmaid or Best Man. Because all our friends ( most of them) live in different states and would need to fly and also work, I wouldn’t want them to feel obligated that they ” have to do this, or have to do that.” I don’t want them to spend their money on my day.


Maybe have her give a toast? I agree with the others.

Post # 11
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We’re not having a bridal party either. It took a lot of stress off. We are going to have my best friend and his sister do a reading during the ceremony. 

Post # 12
19 posts
  • Wedding: June 2017

In my experience wedding parties have too often been excuses for bridezillas to exclude some people and boss other people around. When I was 8 my aunt made the biggest deal out of my big sister and I not being in the wedding party and not being able to ride in the limo or get our hair done while our mom was the Maid/Matron of Honor and our littlest sister was the flower girl and were getting all dolled up. I’ll never forget her screaming “Nobody has time for your hair, you’re not even in the wedding party!” Way to make an 8 year old cry. Not a good way to start your marriage, I think.

Sure, not all wedding parties are like that. But if you don’t want one, more power to you.

Post # 13
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I think SO and I might end up just having one person each and possibly a ring bearer+flower girl, initially I was so worried about having a small bridal party but I don’t think it ends up being that weird at all and better to have a small one or none than too much drama on your wedding day.

LOVE the suggestions of PP about having niece do a reading or something, I’m sure it would be so special. Another idea we’ve thought about for the kids who are too old to be FG/RB but not quite appropriate as bridesmaids/groomsmen was to have them be ushers to walk in and seat parents of the couple or grandparents.

Post # 14
1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We got married 3 weeks ago without a bridal party and it was AWESOME. I posted a recap a couple days ago if you want to see how the photos look and how we ran the event 🙂


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