Post # 1
Alright so, my Fiance and I decided that instead of having to deal with feelings and drama (and extra expenses) of having Bridesmaids and Groomsmen, it’s just going to be the two of us up there. Honestly? It felt like a huge weight was lifted from our shoulders.
Though I was looking forward to having my Ladies with me, it just got to be too much realistically. Not to mention that no one has really seemed interested. It wouldn’t have been possible anyhow. My Groom’s so-called “best friend” since middle school has been a massive jerk lately and his attitude has never been acceptable. Nor even appropriate. I’ve had to shut down my sister’s husband on more than once occasion because he seemed to think he had any sort of say in the matter. So he and I are not on good terms.
I originally wanted my niece to be a bridesmaid, like I had promised her long ago. That’s what kills me. I’d hate going back on my word, that’s what hurts the most :c I’ve been trying to think of if there’s anything else she could do to make her feel like she’s still wanted in the wedding? She’ll probably be 17 by the time we get married. I just can’t bare breaking my promise to her.
But ultimately, I had no problem shutting the whole operation down. At the end of the day, it’s about me and the man of my dreams. No one else. Our wedding, our way basically. I have to admit, it feels so nice and freeing not having to worry about anyone else.
Does this make us a horrible couple?
PS: Thank y’all for listening. I have no one else to vent this too and was hoping maybe some other Brides could relate to this :/
Post # 2
You can have her do a reading or make a toast at the reception.
You do you. If you do not want a wedding party that is fine, many forgo it. Not sure how that would make you a “horrible couple”. You are simply making the best choice for your situation, as we all do when planning a wedding.
Post # 3
All you need to get married is a fiancé.No, you are not horrible, nor is a wedding party some sort of obligation.
You could have just your parents and your niece stand up with you. Or just the parents if you think that will create drama and as mentioned, have your niece do a reading or give a toast.
Wedding parties do not have to be even.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Not a horrible couple at all. We’re not having a bridal party either. We didn’t want anyone standing up with us during the ceremony.
As PP suggested, she could do a reading or give a speech. Also, since I’m not having a bridal party, but it was important to my mother to have my sisters be a part of the ceremony in some way, they’ll be escorting her down the aisle. Maybe she could do something similar?
Post # 5
One option to help her feel included but not necessarily be a member of the wedding party would be to ask if she’d like get ready with you the morning of the wedding- get your hair and makeup done together, etc. As others have suggested, having her do a reading would be a nice gesture as well.
Post # 6
we’re not having a bridal party either! I totally feel ya!
Post # 7
We didn’t have a bridal party, and I was really happy with that choice. Like you, I felt the day was really about my husband and me. We didn’t have any negative comments (at least that I know of) about our choice, and our wedding was really wonderful.
Post # 8
We had a flower girl and ring bearer – they walked down the aisle together then sat down with their parents. And that’s it. When I realized that we didn’t “HAVE TO” have a bridal party, it was such a relief.
It was so perfect for us that I can’t imagine doing it any other way.
Post # 9
Having no bridal party was one of my favorite aspects of the wedding.
If you want to include your niece, ask her to do a reading or get ready with you.
Post # 10
I’m only having my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and my Fiance is having his bestfriend as Bridesmaid or Best Man. Because all our friends ( most of them) live in different states and would need to fly and also work, I wouldn’t want them to feel obligated that they ” have to do this, or have to do that.” I don’t want them to spend their money on my day.
Maybe have her give a toast? I agree with the others.
Post # 11
We’re not having a bridal party either. It took a lot of stress off. We are going to have my best friend and his sister do a reading during the ceremony.
Post # 12
In my experience wedding parties have too often been excuses for bridezillas to exclude some people and boss other people around. When I was 8 my aunt made the biggest deal out of my big sister and I not being in the wedding party and not being able to ride in the limo or get our hair done while our mom was the Maid/Matron of Honor and our littlest sister was the flower girl and were getting all dolled up. I’ll never forget her screaming “Nobody has time for your hair, you’re not even in the wedding party!” Way to make an 8 year old cry. Not a good way to start your marriage, I think.
Sure, not all wedding parties are like that. But if you don’t want one, more power to you.
Post # 13
I think SO and I might end up just having one person each and possibly a ring bearer+flower girl, initially I was so worried about having a small bridal party but I don’t think it ends up being that weird at all and better to have a small one or none than too much drama on your wedding day.
LOVE the suggestions of PP about having niece do a reading or something, I’m sure it would be so special. Another idea we’ve thought about for the kids who are too old to be FG/RB but not quite appropriate as bridesmaids/groomsmen was to have them be ushers to walk in and seat parents of the couple or grandparents.
Post # 14
We got married 3 weeks ago without a bridal party and it was AWESOME. I posted a recap a couple days ago if you want to see how the photos look and how we ran the event 🙂