Post # 1
My finance picked out THE MOST PERFECT vintage engagement ring for me. I love it so much! I could not have picked out a more perfect ring for myself.
HOWEVER, because it’s a vintage ring and it has a lot of detail he said he wasn’t going to get me a wedding band. He said he doesn’t like the look of two rings and he thinks a band would take away from my engagement ring.
Is anyone else skipping the wedding band and just having one ring/their engagement ring? Am I being selfish wishing he’d get me a wedding band?
Post # 3
Maybe you can get a simple, inexpensive one for when you don’t want to go out and about with the irreplaceable vintage one?
Post # 4
I don’t really think that selfish. The wedding band isn’t as much about the aesthetics as I feel like the e-ring is, the wedding band is a commemoration of the day and the vows and commiting to each other. You deserve a wedding band too. Does the e-ring fit on both ring fingers, you could just switch hands and do the band only on the left, if he can’t get a matching one.
Post # 5
@ashkat: My Maid/Matron of Honor uses her e-ring as her wedding ring. She has some intricate celtic knotting on the side and couldn’t ever find a ring she ever loved so she just dind’t end up getting a wedding band. It works well b/c the band on her e-ring is on the thicker side to begin with
Post # 6
You don’t need one (I know several married women, including my sister and one of my friends who only wear an e-ring). However if you do want one for the symbolism, tradition, whatever it may be…I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all!
Maybe you could go with him to try a few really simple/slender bands on at a jewelry store so he can actually see how it would look on your hand? Maybe he’s just having a hard time visualizing it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I don’t plan on getting a wedding band. My ring is a twist style, so I will just say that it symbolizes the two rings twisted together. 😛 I might get the wedding date engraved and have that presented at the ceremony, but meh. It’s completely up to you what you want! 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s selfish if that’s what you want! Maybe find a good compromise, like the PPs said.
I actually wear just my wedding band – a plain white gold band. But what’s right for me isn’t right for everyone. 🙂
Post # 9
I’ll probably do the opposite: have a wedding band but no e-ring. But that’s not so rare, I don’t think.
I don’t think you’re being selfish about the wedding band at all. I want one for what it symbolizes. If it’s important to you, I think you should get one!
I agree with a PP that maybe your Fiance is just having a hard time visualizing it.
Post # 10
Use both your ring fingers and wear one ring per hand if he doesn’t think two rings together look good, and you want a wedding band.