Post # 1
Fiance and I have discussed not getting me a wedding ring for the wedding. We hope to get one later but with all the wedding expenses and other expensive things we have going on this summer it just ended up getting cut from our budget.
At first I didn’t care and was actually the one who came up with idea but now I kind of want one. Two things have made me re-think this idea.
1. I want to exchange our actual wedding rings on the wedding and have that memory but I’ll wear it for the rest of my life (after we get it) so I know that we will create meaning to it over time.
2. I made the mistake of looking and I fell in love with ring. I know its stupid and materialistic because we really could use the money for more pratical things like a deposit on our house, or my moving truck.
Anyone else not getting wedding rings?
Post # 3
Why not opt for a simpler wedding band? The meaning is the same, but you’ll save money on it. Ours were only $500 for both bands (his was slightly more expensive than mine).
Post # 4
I agree with Mrs Grape. I know you have your eye on a particular ring, but I’d rather have rings to exchange with my hubby on our wedding day, even if it’s not what I really, really want, than not be able to exchange rings at all.
There’s a diamond wedding band I really like that’s $600. Realistically, I know we don’t really have room in the budget for it so I’m thinking of getting a simple $200 white gold band and Fiance said he’d buy me a nice anniversary band in the future. I’m like, I get TWO rings? Done!
Post # 5
I have a “stand in” ring that I’ve worn on my right hand for years that I think I’ll use for the ceremony ring exchange. Its a different metal and doens’t really fit well against the engagement ring. I also don’t want to wear it for long for fear of damaging one or the other since they don’t fit and are different metals.
I looked at cheaper rings but my e-ring is platinum so even plain rings are pretty pricey.
Post # 6
Your wedding band and e-ring don’t even have to be the same material, tbh. I’ve seen tons of mixed rings and they look great.
Post # 7
We really didn’t have a lot of money either and I also felt really guilty buying a wedding band when there were other expenses. However, I ended up just getting a $45 white gold wedding band. It’s super plan, but it matches the metal on my e-ring. Maybe for our 5-year anniversary we’ll do an upgrade. You could try something like that. Keep that dream ring in mind, but get something. Even if it is cheap. It’s not about the cost of the ring, but it’s about the symbolism of exchanging it with your husband as you pledge your lives to one another.
Post # 8
What we did is we went and got a diamond luxe or something like that that was sterling silver. Mine was an eternity band made of diamond luxe diamonds all the way around it and his was a ring similar to the tungstan one he wanted. We got it at a kias in the mall. It was 65.00 for the both of our rings. They should last a couple months until we can save a little extra after the wedding and buy the ones we want. You cant tell the diff. They also have sterling silver bands and all types of things. Jcpenney right now is having an awesome sale on jewlrey
Post # 9
My e-ring is platinum too and I decided to go with a white gold band. They look identical to each other. And my wedding band has diamonds across the whole top of my finger any way so you barely see any of the metal. Some people will tell you not to mix metals but I’ve been married a year now and I haven’t had any issues. My white gold and diamond band was only $250 at Jared.
Post # 10
@Mrs Grape: I had heard you could damage the gold ring if it was next to platinum since its a softer metal, not true? The gold ring has a lot of sentimental value so I’d be upset to damge it.
Maybe I’ll start looking at some other options as suggested
Post # 11
@Snowy414: I’ve heard that, but I think it’s just a rumor. If you go 10k white gold, it’s very, very hard to damage the metal.
Post # 12
We wanted plain, matching bands that were engraved with (at least) our wedding date on the inside. I got mine at e-weddingbands.com. Engraving is free. I got this one:
It was $144. 3 mm, 14k gold, flat band. His is 6mm, I believe. They were shipped fast and the engraving is beautiful. Then, no matter what you get in the furture, you’ll always have a nice band to wear (can even wear on right hand later). They have all sorts of styles though, they have 10k too, and they have other metals if you want.
Post # 13
if I didn’t have the money for a wedding band, I’d get the style I love in CZ, and upgrade it later. I just bought one from Amazon to wear as a right hand ring. it’s so beautiful, I would have been very happy to let it be my stand-in wedding ring!
if you do choose the CZ route, be sure to note what kind of metal the ring is. some really cheap rings will be rhodium plated copper or something similar. so when it wears off, you’ll really see it. the ring I posted above is rhodium plated silver. so when the rhodium wears off, I have a feeling it will hardly show.
if your’e worried about other metals next to your platinum ring, ask your jeweler for advice.
Post # 14
You can get plain bands for very cheap they can even be silver or stainless steel and then always upgrade later.. this way you could actually incorporate the exchange of rings into your ceremony rather than have no rings at all.
Post # 15
My friends just got married this weekend, and for the ring exchange, because they’d need to have a custom band made to mathc her e-ring, she just handed over the e-ring for the exchange. I also know some ladies who liked their e-ring by itself and decided against a band altogether. So, if you don’t want to go onto Etsy and find a band for less than $50.00 to use (some look really nice), then just give the best man your e-ring for the ceremony.
Post # 16
Fiance is just getting a cheap one for the ceremony, because he is getting his tatooed on. He dosn’t like wearing jewelry.