Post # 1
So I haven’t lived in North America for four years, and have thus missed quite a few of my friends’ weddings. Those weddings I have attended have been for people from minority cultures that were very different from ‘mainstream’ NA weddings. What I’m trying to say here is that I’m sometimes really ‘out of the loop’ when it comes to contemporary mainstream wedding customs.
The one I’ve been thinking about recently has been the wedding website. Everyone seems to have one, and I know they can be very useful for directions/info about the wedding, but I’m not sure if it makes sense for our wedding. We’re having about 80 people who are close friends or family. Most are coming far far far from out of town (think minimum 5 hour drive but more like a 5 hour to 20 hour plane trip), so they will actually be gathered for the wedding before the wedding. Also, all my friends who would actually check a wedding website are on FB and we chat regularly about wedding related things. In addition, the only people who don’t know the details of the wedding because they don’t have FB are my elderly relatives (think 80+) who don’t have a computer and will be driven by someone from my immediate family to the wedding venue because they don’t drive anymore. (Oh, and we are not doing a gift registry as we can’t take gifts back to Korea)
So…do I really need a wedding website? I feel strange about it…not only because I don’t think anyone would really use it, but the ones I’ve seen usually have large amounts of space devoted to the couple and their relationship…something I think we are both uncomfortable with.
Therefore, does anyone think I really need one? Doesn’t a map in the wedding invite suffice? Does anyone not have one? Did anyone have a problem with you not having one? Am I just, after 4 years abroad, old fashioned enough not to realize how essential they are?
Post # 3
I don’t think a wedding website is necessary in your case. Your family and friends will already be in the loop and as you said and won’t need to check a website for the details.
My fiancé and I registered a domain name and we’re now hesitant about creating a website because we don’t feel comfortable putting a lot of personal information on the internet. I think we might password protect the website if we do it at all. I don’t like the idea that anybody could show up at our wedding by just stumbling upon our wedding website.
Post # 4
@FirstOfMay Thanks for your insight (and I see you’re new to WB, so welcome!) The password is a good idea in terms of protecting personal information. And it’s great to meet a bee with a Korean connection.^^
Post # 5
I think a map is good and as long as your guests have a way to find the wedding, why do you need a website?
Post # 6
We didn’t really do a wedding website. I think we had our registries listed on The Knot page, but what was about it. We included all the hotel info and maps in with the invitation and that seemed to work fine.
Post # 7
I don’t think you need a wedding website, but I really do enjoy mine! Its a great place for people that don’t live around you (and even that do!) to keep up with your wedding planning as find out information. Instead of having to call everyone with every update, they can just check out your site 🙂
Post # 8
We have one, but we don’t have any personal information up, as the idea of writing out mini bios and a proposal story really makes me cringe. We are just using it to give folks directions and hotel information, as well as any other practical info that they might need.
Post # 9
A wedding website is not necessary and many more people than you would imagine actually don’t do them and guests are fully capable of getting all the information they need.
Post # 10
it doesnt seem like you need one really, although i did have fun making mine! (i agree with Sirouhi though, the ultra personal cutesy stuff makes me cringe…i know some people love it and great for them but it is not me at all lol) but back to the topic…if it isnt something that will be useful for your guests then i wouldnt worry about it. if you want to, you could always make a website for free (there a bunch of places to do that, including weddingchannel).
Post # 11
I, too, thought most people did one and then my FH’s sister (who just got married herself) was super surprised, had never heard of it. I think it make sense for us, if for no other reason than to have one central place for information, but I’m not 100% sure that it wasn’t more for me than them 🙂