Post # 1
…it seems like so many brides are gift-grabbing. It’s EVERYWHERE and so encouraged!
I’m registered at well-known department store. After registering, they sent me post-it notes that said, “The happy couple is registered at XX.” I thought they were a little weird but figured people might use them in shower invites. I can also see how an unknowing bride might stick them on the invite itself. Can you imagine if you didn’t know about that rule and got those post-its? It’s not like there’s a note saying “Don’t put these in the invite!”
Said department store is having a sale and I got an email today saying, “10% off registery items – Tell you guests! Code XXXX” What? Are you kidding? How do you possibly expect me to share with my guests that the items on my registry are on sale? By emailing them? Calling them? Forwarding the email to them? Are you seriously suggesting any bride do something so incredibly crass as not only asking directly for presents but to remind their guests to buy them right now since they’re on sale? OMFG!
I realize that the store is just trying to sell stuff but honestly, I think this is how a lot of brides end up doing something that’s maybe not socially acceptable when it comes to gifts and registeries. Can you imagine if you a bride sent you information about her registery items being on sale? It seems like this sort of registry advertising is everywhere. Anybody else see anything really crass?
Post # 3
Yikes, that’s a lot of over the top!
Yes, most everywhere was really trying to push registery cards (which apparently are normal in the UK, but Totally Not in North America!).
Post # 4
I am registered at a very large department store and I have received two emails from them about how the price of two items (Dyson vacuum and Kitcheaide Mixer) are both going up soon so I should email my guests to let them know to buy it before the price hike. I was very put off by that! I have received some wedding invites that have the registry info right on the invite! I am put off by that but some think that is acceptable.
I feel like gift-grabby brides are everywhere! I recently met someone who told me that she and her fiance decided to have a wedding at an all inclusive resort so they payed for the ceremony fee and the cake and thats it. She said the reason they did this was so they wouldn’t have to pay a huge expense for a large wedding but could invite over 600 people and said “then we will get a lot of gifts but we don’t have to pay for the huge cost of the wedding.” She invited us to her wedding, we declined, and didn’t send a gift, i normally always send gifts but in this situation I decided I wouldn’t.
Post # 5
Here in the UK it’s completely acceptable to put your registry in the Invite – i’ve never known an invite to NOT have the registry in it!
Quite interesting how different countries react to what’s appropriate and what isn’t, I guess!
Post # 6
I get those emails too and I just ignore them. No big deal, just move on and don’t let something so silly stress you out!
Post # 7
@orchid84: I’ve definitely never seen registry info on an invite. Shower invites, sure, but not on the wedding invite. That seems over the top to me. It just kind of drives me nuts how pushy the registry stuff is.
Also, OMG! Did they end up having a large guest list?
Post # 8
Wow, that’s horrible. I guess I’m lucky. I’ve registered at William Sonoma and haven’t had any such emails.
Post # 9
@orchid84: Wow… that kind of attitude on her part really takes a set.
Post # 10
I would be horrified if I got a post-it on a wedding invite.
Post # 11
From the midwest here, and definitely seen registry cards in shower invites and *SOME* wedding invites. What kills me are the people who register for booze, monster large flatscreen TVs, video games (board games or games that can be played as a couple excluded), or CLOTHES. Yes, swimsuits (that “could” be used for the honeymoon supposedly).
I don’t mind getting people presents, but c’mon! If you don’t need/want to upgrade certain items that fit more into necessity category, then please don’t register for random stuff like this. I’d much rather not find an item on your registry and give you money (and just keep in my mind that you’re using it for something somewhat practical).
Post # 12
i have been nwondering why macys keeps sending me emails about items on my registry going on sale. I always delete without reading and now I know what they are doing! i figured if i wasnt married yet why do i need to know if something is on sale??
Post # 13
When I get emails from the registry sites, I get all excited because I think it’s a purchase notice or something, so when it isn’t, I get grouchy 🙁