Post # 1
Are any other Bee experiencing people who are not family or in the bridal party wanting to see your wedding stuff and getting upset that you will not show it to them? I have few coworkers who are upset because I will not show them a picture of my gown.
Then I had one today ask if she can see the flower girl dresses since I won’t let her see my gown. So I told her I already sent the dresses to the flower girls so they can try it. Then she said well don’t you have pictures of it? WTH!! HELL NO YOU CAN’T SEE MY STUFF!!
I always have my wedding planner with me and I had to remove the pages with stuff that I’m using because they will just pick it up and start going through it. SMH
Post # 3
You shouldn’t have to repeat yourself when telling anyone to mind their own business. These people are nosy and not worth your time or the stress they are creating. Put your foot down that you don’t plan to share any information. You shouldn’t have to dismantle your wedding binder either.
If you saying something does not get the point across, let your supervistor know that they are harrassing you. That’s ridiculous what is going on.
Post # 4
Yes! This makes me absolutely crazy! Also, it’s all anyone will ask me about, even though we have other big events going on in our lives. It’s never, “How’s the job search? Are you excited about moving?” No, it’s almost-strangers wanting to know my wedding colors.
Also, I try to never mention that I’m buying something specifically for my wedding, if I can help it. I have had lots of sales people who want to know every detail and then try to push their own ideas and opinions. I guess it’s a sales technique, but it makes me so uncomfortable.
Do you all ever get the, “So, you must be done planning by NOW” stuff, too?
Post # 5
I don’t see the big deal! No need to be rude and bridezillish over it.
Are these people coming to your wedding? If not then it really isn’t a big deal.
If they are invited just say politely that you want it to be a suprise on the day.
They are probably just excited for you and are wanting to share in that. You should feel flattered that they are excited and want to share with you.
It is rude to go through someones planner so I would just not leave it out.
@Ember78: Really getting a supervisor involved- that would be a really awful thing to do to someone in my opinion.
Post # 6
In my office, there is only one other girl. The gys really don’t care about the wedding. But she is always asking me.
Ive shown her pictures of my gown, and of other stuff. Shown her the website of my photographer.
We have a great girly moment over it while the guys roll their eyes.
I am yet to decide if I am inviting her or not, mainly due to numbers. If i was having a larger wedding, I would be inviting her for sure.
Post # 7
@j_jaye: Yes they are invited to the wedding and I did the whole you’ll have to wait and see like everyone else and some of them gets upset. Like one kept nagging me about my colors so I showed her a picture I had in my phone, well when they next person came to work she brought them over and was like show her your colors then the next person she did it again. I told her a few things then the next thing I know everyone else knows so I stopped.
We’re more coworkers than we are friends so I have no idea when I say I would prefer her to find out the day off she gets upset and storms away.
I printed out songs to walk down the aisle to and didn’t realize it printed twice well she picked up the other copy and asked what it was for and I told her. She started asking other coworkers which song they think I should use.
When she was getting married last year, all I asked was how everything was going.
@Ember78: Not that serious to get the supervisor involved but it wouldn’t matter because she always wants to see stuff too…lol
Post # 8
@mrsjjohnson2b: I would be flattered if the women I work with took such interest in my wedding. If you are so concerned with them going through your wedding planner, then why don’t you just leave it at home? Not to be snarky, but you should be working at work, right?
On the other hand, if you are repeatedly telling them that you wish to keep this information private, then they should respect that- it’s rude. I would keep all things wedding out of the workplace if I were you from this point on
Post # 9
@rubybride718: It’s not the point that she is asking so much, but the fact of when I don’t want to share the info she gets upset. We work different shift so when I’m getting off she is coming in. I work 11pm to 7am and I’m usually done with my work by 1 then I don’t have anything to do again until 4:30 so I do my research for wedding stuff then. It’s just me and the security gaurd. I started packing up my stuff before she gets there but if I go to the restroom she would just pick stuff up and start looking and showing other people.
If it was the, How is everything going, Did you pick this or that out yet, I wouldn’t mind but getting pissed at me for not showing you the flower girl dresses because I didn’t show you my gown is a little crazy to me. Who wants everyone who is attending their wedding to see their dress the bridal party dress, the cake, the decorations to know every single detail of their wedding before it happens? I don’t.
A girl who works in another dept., I don’t even know her name, told me that she love the cake that I choose and she had never seen a cake like that before. So I asked what cake? She was like your wedding cake. So I asked how she saw my wedding cake. Well I guess you guys already know the answer. She saw a check mark that I told Fiance to put by the stuff he liked in my wedding planner and assumed it was my cake and went online and pulled it up and showed other people. Like really who does that?
I’m not tryna be a bridezilla but am I alone in wanting my guest to be surprised the day of?
Post # 10
@mrsjjohnson2b: Yikes. I see what you’re saying. I like it when people are interested but that is downright intrusive. I’d be irate if someone went through my stuff when I wasn’t there.
Post # 11
@ the OP,
to be honest you sound like a quintessential “Bridezilla” you should be honored and flattered they give you that much importance and attention. How can you be upset about people who are just truly and genuinely excited for your big day? RUDE!
Post # 12
Haha! Not that it’s funny, but I bet what could be happening is the more secretive you are (and you have every right to be) the more curious she/they will be. Just like little kids! It’s probably that they’re happy for you and interested and want to be involved – it’s kinda cute, really. But I can also see how it could be annoying after you’ve said no already and stated your preference for your wedding to be a surprise.
Post # 13
If they are really pestering you like this, then show them a decoy of everything. If they want to see your dress, show them your third-choice dress. Show them a fake cake, a fake flower-girl dress. If you want to have some fun, show them ugly versions of everything! Find stuff that’s tacky and out there but still plausible.
Post # 14
@Over the Moon: Omg, I absolutely love that idea! I would totally do that . . .
Post # 15
I don’t think you sound like a Bridezilla, it’s annoying. Why do people need to see every aspect of our weddings beforehand? They’ll be there, right? It annoys the bejesus out of me too, like really you’re going to see everything in 1 month, leave some surprise to it!
Post # 16
I would kill for someone, ANYONE, to show some interest in my wedding. Sheesh. Tell her to call me if she wants to see some photos.
I think she’s probably just really excited and happy for you. Some people are just naturally over-sharers. (raises hand.) I wish I could be more like you, but honestly, if the lady at the grocery store asked to see my wedding dress, I’d whip out my iPhone and show her a picture. I’m freaking excited. I’m excited about every last detail, and on the big day, every thing you show your co-workers are going to look so much different.
Maybe you can pull her aside one day and nicely tell her that you understand she’s just excited and trying to be supportive, but you’d rather not share any wedding details. And then leave your wedding binder at home and don’t print wedding stuff at work anymore. I think if you don’t bring it around work anymore, you don’t leave that door open. I’m sorry she’s frustrating you so much 🙁