(Closed) No you cannot see my wedding stuff!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4485 posts
Honey bee

You shouldn’t have to repeat yourself when telling anyone to mind their own business. These people are nosy and not worth your time or the stress they are creating. Put your foot down that you don’t plan to share any information. You shouldn’t have to dismantle your wedding binder either.

If you saying something does not get the point across, let your supervistor know that they are harrassing you. That’s ridiculous what is going on.

Post # 4
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes! This makes me absolutely crazy! Also, it’s all anyone will ask me about, even though we have other big events going on in our lives. It’s never, “How’s the job search? Are you excited about moving?” No, it’s almost-strangers wanting to know my wedding colors. 

Also, I try to never mention that I’m buying something specifically for my wedding, if I can help it. I have had lots of sales people who want to know every detail and then try to push their own ideas and opinions. I guess it’s a sales technique, but it makes me so uncomfortable.

 

Do you all ever get the, “So, you must be done planning by NOW” stuff, too?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t see the big deal! No need to be rude and bridezillish over it.

Are these people coming to your wedding? If not then it really isn’t a big deal.

If they are invited just say politely that you want it to be a suprise on the day.

They are probably just excited for you and are wanting to share in that. You should feel flattered that they are excited and want to share with you.

It is rude to go through someones planner so I would just not leave it out.

@Ember78:  Really getting a supervisor involved- that would be a really awful thing to do to someone in my opinion.

Post # 6
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In my office, there is only one other girl.  The gys really don’t care about the wedding.  But she is always asking me.

Ive shown her pictures of my gown, and of other stuff.  Shown her the website of my photographer.

We have a great girly moment over it while the guys roll their eyes.

I am yet to decide if I am inviting her or not, mainly due to numbers.  If i was having a larger wedding, I would be inviting her for sure.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mrsjjohnson2b:  I would be flattered if the women I work with took such interest in my wedding.  If you are so concerned with them going through your wedding planner, then why don’t you just leave it at home?  Not to be snarky, but you should be working at work, right?

On the other hand, if you are repeatedly telling them that you wish to keep this information private, then they should respect that- it’s rude.  I would keep all things wedding out of the workplace if I were you from this point on

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mrsjjohnson2b:  Yikes.  I see what you’re saying.  I like it when people are interested but that is downright intrusive.  I’d be irate if someone went through my stuff when I wasn’t there. 

Post # 11
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@ the OP,

to be honest you sound like a quintessential “Bridezilla” you should be honored and flattered they give you that much importance and attention. How can you be upset about people who are just truly and genuinely excited for your big day? RUDE!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Haha!  Not that it’s funny, but I bet what could be happening is the more secretive you are (and you have every right to be) the more curious she/they will be.  Just like little kids!  It’s probably that they’re happy for you and interested and want to be involved – it’s kinda cute, really.  But I can also see how it could be annoying after you’ve said no already and stated your preference for your wedding to be a surprise. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If they are really pestering you like this, then show them a decoy of everything. If they want to see your dress, show them your third-choice dress. Show them a fake cake, a fake flower-girl dress. If you want to have some fun, show them ugly versions of everything! Find stuff that’s tacky and out there but still plausible.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Over the Moon:  Omg, I absolutely love that idea!  I would totally do that . . .

Post # 15
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802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think you sound like a Bridezilla, it’s annoying. Why do people need to see every aspect of our weddings beforehand? They’ll be there, right? It annoys the bejesus out of me too, like really you’re going to see everything in 1 month, leave some surprise to it!

Post # 16
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would kill for someone, ANYONE, to show some interest in my wedding. Sheesh. Tell her to call me if she wants to see some photos. 

I think she’s probably just really excited and happy for you. Some people are just naturally over-sharers. (raises hand.) I wish I could be more like you, but honestly, if the lady at the grocery store asked to see my wedding dress, I’d whip out my iPhone and show her a picture. I’m freaking excited. I’m excited about every last detail, and on the big day, every thing you show your co-workers are going to look so much different. 

Maybe you can pull her aside one day and nicely tell her that you understand she’s just excited and trying to be supportive, but you’d rather not share any wedding details. And then leave your wedding binder at home and don’t print wedding stuff at work anymore. I think if you don’t bring it around work anymore, you don’t leave that door open. I’m sorry she’s frustrating you so much 🙁 

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