posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
11 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

@janetsnakehole:  so sorry to hear ur going thru this but i feel ur pain i had my fsil husband (who was a last min replacement) ask if he could wear his dress blues (hes in the reserves) i told them no bc 1 everyone else is wearing black 2 it would take attention away from the groom 3 my fh was in the air force, so was another gm so if theyre not wearing theirs why the heck would you wear yours?!  thankfully they said ok and kept it moving but i def feel ur pain, dont worry about being looked at as a bitch do what you want to do to make ur day how you want it

Post # 4
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ll see if I can post you a picture, I’m posting from my phone right now…our Groomsmen wore mismatched grey suits, with the same tie, and they looked amazing.  About half already had a gray suit, half went and got a new one.  Not redneck at all.  Black might be harder to pull off, but maybe if they have gray suits that will work out. 

Post # 5
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I actually plan to have the groomsmen all wear gray suits that are different.  However, nothing in my wedding is very matchy-matchy or traditional, so I think it’ll work.  I see why you’re upset, I had a similar fight about my Fiance wearing an old button up blue shirt to our wedding.  I eventually won, and he’s wearing a new white shirt.  We all have our moments and things that are important, I hope this works out in your favor!

Post # 6
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@janetsnakehole:  who ever heard of a wedding party just wearing whatever they have laying around?  it does’nt work that way!

lol, sorry, that made me chuckle – I was really focused on making sure our bridal party didn’t spend too much money on stuff they might never wear again, so I gave them some color options and practically begged them all to go through their closets and find something they already owned to wear to our wedding.  If you check this google link, you’ll see that mismatched suits can look pretty good!


Personally, I say save the ‘zilla moments for something pretty big.  You’ve got a lot of time left for many other glitches!  

Post # 7
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry, but I have to agree with Groomsmen regarding rented suits. To me, they look cheap and ill-fitting most of the time. My Darling Husband was a groomsman this fall, and the suit rental was $150!?! He felt uncomfortable and silly wearing it when he owns a beautiful $1000 tailored suit of the same color.  For our wedding, I asked the groomsmen to buy their (mismatched) suits and sent several suggestions of varying cost – Macy’s, Express, JCrew, etc.  If you prefer everyone match, I think a $100 suit from Macy’s with a tailored fit would be preferable to a rental. 

Of course it’s your wedding and you can insist on rentals, but try not to take it personally. I’m sure the guys just want to look their best.

Post # 8
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Do they all have gray suits?   It seems silly for them all to spend money on something they already have in their closets. 

I got all the guys their vests at Express and I bought them all the same ties as well, they all had their own pants from gray suits they already owned.  I can assure you, literally no one, ZERO people are going to be examining the guys suits to make sure they are the same brand.

I agree though, black suits for a summer/outdoorsy wedding would not work.  What about black pants with out jackets, or vests? It sucks he waited til the last minute – but thats such a guy thing – I swear, my husband was still working on the music the MORNING we got married.  It all turned out fine!!  Hope they all have gray suits already, but if not, Express always has coupons and standard gray suiting for a reasonable price.

Post # 9
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Men’s Warehouse has amazing suit rentals that look wonderful, with many different styles and colors to choose from, plus their rentals are extensively cleaned. That is what my FI’s Men’s Warehouse consultant told him anyway which I tend to believe since we’ve been to a few weddings where the groom and the GMs wore rentals from this company and they looked wonderful. 

I am sorry you are going through this, that is something I wouldn’t have even thought about until it hit me like a ton of bricks. The only problem I’ve had in that department is that my Fiance rented out bow ties instead of black ties, so he’ll have to go back and change that before the wedding, but it isn’t that big of a deal. 

Just know that this isn’t a big deal, calmly show him the pictures and tell your groom this is what he and his men will wear. If one of his groomsmen does not like that look or doesn’t like rentals you can tell him that he can buy the suit you’re looking at so he can match for the wedding. Make sure though that this suit is affordable for them this is a huge thing. This is your wedding and there is no room for Groomsmen divas in my opinion. 

Listen to you groom and his men, try and work with them, but in the end stick to what you want and what will make you Fiance happy. This is the perfect time to put your compromising skills to work. 

Post # 10
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think that having perfectly matching wedding party members is what makes a wedding “classy”.

Post # 11
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I know it’s annoying for them to throw a wrench in your plans, but I think you should let your Fiance decide this one. This is something he cares about, why can’t he have his way? Regardless of how it looks (and I don’t think it will look nearly as bad as you think), he should have a voice on things he finds important. 

Post # 12
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

*raises hand* Our gm wore suit pants and shirts they had and wore matching vests. Honestly no one will notices that much if the groomsmen aren’t wearing the exact same suit as long as it is the same color. No one looks that close because they are looking at the beautiful bride and groom! I say not worth the fight because it IS his wedding too and they are HIS groomsmen so unless he picked out your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, let him pick the groomsmen outfit. 

Post # 13
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If your bridesmaids are matched, IMO, I agree with you that you would want to have the same/similar suits for the groom’s party. If you’re being a bit more mismatchy (I suspect you aren’t), you could get away with “black suits” rather than the same black suit.

The real issue, though, is your Fiance undercutting you and not following through with stuff and making the planning process harder. To which I say, man, I’m sorry, and that crap would drive me nuts too. I had a moment at the beginning where my husband thought maybe the men in his party would wear suits and his one groomswoman would wear a women’s suit and the other groomswoman would wear a bridesmaid dress, and I was like…NO, that will NOT work. So I sympathize!


Post # 14
589 posts
Busy bee

@Ellegee:  I would love to see your picture too if you can post them. I’m going to be doing the same thing with the Groomsmen and my bridesman. Basically their own grey suits and maybe matching ties. 

Post # 15
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like you need to take a step back here. Yes you have a vision, but it’s your FI’s day too and these are his friends. No one will notice or care what the GMs are wearing. Let your Fiance decide on this issue and make it one less thing you have to worry about.

Post # 16
4126 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m a British bee and I know I have a different opiion since it is the responsibilty of the bride and groom to buy outfits for the members of the bridal party.  If you REALLY want them to wear grey suits and they can’t afford it you need to pay for them even if it’s just a small contribution.  I don’t believe members of the Bridal Party should be out of pocket. Sorry.

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