(Closed) NO you can't wear fucking jeans to my wedding. (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  But seriously…we all talked about that guy (who is SO WEIRD regardless of what he wore) but it was NOT the focus of the day.  Look how freaking happy everyone is in that picture.  I also want someone to tell me where Rick’s tie is (he’s the one in the back, with the tie on his shoulder…but not around his neck).  Also isn’t my dad’s elbow so cute??  Ha.  

You can control what YOU do and what YOU tell people.  You cannot control how they respond or react to what you do and say.  Try not to fixate on it.  Instead…worry about the weather.

HAHAHAHA just kidding.

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon Wow you have done so well to keep Zilla in for so long!!!

Honestly, you always get at least one difficult person in every group you invite, I don’t know how that works but there has always got to be one stick in the mud.

You are definitely not a bad person at all it is your one special day and you have given plenty of notice.  And seriously, if they cant afford a new jacket go to a second hand shop, you can pick them up there pretty cheap, but flat out saying I don’t have a jacket when there is still 8 weeks till the wedding is just being laZy.  But for your sanity’s sake, try not to let it get to you, on the day of your wedding you will be enjoying yourself so much that you won’t even notice what the guests are wearing. 

All the best, it does sound like you have a stressful time ahead of you but I hope it all goes smoothly with no further dramas.


 

 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

As long as our guests have clothes on their bodies, FH and I will be happy.  They can wear jeans, ladies can wear white, we simply do not care. We simply want them to be there when we get married. You are not wrong for wanting a certain dress code, but you are only hurting yourself. Unless you personally go to peoples homes and dress them for the wedding, you can not control their attire. And I am assuming you are spending so much on your wedding because it is the type of wedding you and your Fiance want. Unfortunately the amount of money being spent does not matter to your guests. There are things you can control and things you cannot.

With the dress snafus and college starting Monday, it is no wonder you are stressed to the max. I assume you either take medication or are in therapy for the anxiety disorder – if so, you need to talk with your doctor or therapist. You are going to drive yourself crazy – and probably your Fiance as well. And all that stress and freaking out will accomplish absolutely nothing but ruin your wedding. You really have to find some way to let go of the things you can not control. Do it for YOU, so you can actually enjoy some of this time before and during your wedding.

Post # 36
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  Receiving line…too formal for me!  I walked around to each table and talked to everyone.  It was soooo much easier to have everything rather unplanned.  

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  Strangers?  At your own wedding?  

Dear me.  =(  

Everyone made sure I was happy alll day long on the day of our wedding.  So you’ll be sort of protected from the BS, hopefully.  

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have the same problem with my uncle. Only he is refusing to wear a suit period- not even a jacket. I offered to BUY him one and he still said no on the principle that no one can make him wear a suit (as if he is morally opposed to suits). I explained that it’s a formal wedding and he will be the only one but he didn’t care….so I kept my cool. I hope he keeps his when he sees where he is seated (back table). You can also instruct your photographer (as I plan to) to avoid getting this man’s attire in any shots as much as possible. At present my uncle is going to show up in a tee shirt, jumper and casual pants. *Dies*

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think it’s too much to expect of your guests to dress appropriately for the event that you are holding. Personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable attending an event that I wasn’t dressed for whether it be over dressed or under dressed. I attended a very casual wedding last week, and one of the guests wore a hideous prom dress. She looked really awkward among the rest of the casual dresses and khakis. Your guests don’t have to spend $300 on a new suit or something. There are other ways to acquire nice clothing, whether it be borrowing or visiting a thrift store. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  Sweet! Lemme go get my jean tuxedo.. or should I wear my jean prom dress? There’s just so many JEAN OPTIONS out there!

Post # 44
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  alright, I understand anxiety issues – my husband and other close people have diagnoses – but I don’t see how your FI’s uncle’s clothes really matter, even to somebody with anxiety. This stuff really does not matter, period.

 But each to their own. I hope you have a joyful and peaceful wedding day.

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  it’s the straw that broke the camels back. Try to relax about it… I know it’s easier said then done!! I PROMISE you that on the day of the wedding… None of this will matter!! It won’t, and it won’t even cross your mind! just breath and let the guests make themselves look like asses bc they can’t go out and but a jacket!

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