(Closed) NO you can't wear fucking jeans to my wedding. (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 64
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9124 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Alright, I can respect that. I didn’t mean to presume that all anxiety issues are equivalent. 

I’m guess I’m just surprised because you want a lot of leeway because of your disability, but your responses to other women in this website tend to be… not particularly empathetic.

But I hope it works out for you. Everyone deserves a happy, stress-free wedding day. 

Post # 66
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881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

All the feels for you. Seriously. Less than two months until the wedding and grad school starts back up again tuesday and my Fiance is still on the hunt for a new job. I totally get needing to vent it out here so you don’t explode on someone in real life. Sometimes everything just seems to come on at once and feel overwhelming. Find something that is mind numbingly easy and relaxing (I enjoy watching crazy reality shows myself when my brain is telling me it just can’t do anything else) and focus on the endgame. Are you taking a honeymoon? My florist told me her best tip for brides is don’t focus on the wedding but the honeymoon with your new husband! It has been majorily helpful. 

 

Post # 69
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4435 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Truly bizarre- I’ve never heard of anyone wearing jeans to a wedding?!! Hopefully this person will either smarten up, or be tucked away way in the back of the room behind reasonably-dressed folk:)

Post # 70
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9164 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  GAD is a tough disease to have. Just curious are you getting treatment? Becuase this and some of your previous post are probably not a healthy form of treatment especially because your posts are likely to be taken differently by a lot of people. I say this from a mental health background.

Maybe a spinoff thread about the disease would be a good thing for you to start if you are open to it- kinda like a Public Service Announcement.

Post # 71
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  I like that you have a sense of humor with it along with your rage.  I use sarcasim… probably to much.  It helps, especially when I get a laugh from someone when I use it.  Which is good, its borderline sometimes.  My mouth has a mind of its own somedays.  

I have tricotomania, a form of anxiety.  I had an intern sitting in on an appointment with my DR. who started asking me if I had this symptom and that one.  Would ask these really personal questions that I didn’t want to answer as I didn’t know her. Hello lab rat girl!  Its really tricky some days.  

Venting is good, and people on here take things so seriousely.  I say vent, but then, you made me laugh.  I like a good laugh.

Post # 72
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2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  Yeah, I hated it too. 

In the end, mine involved 9 guests + officiant in a park because of that, but we still had a party and that was stressful too. 

I take baths, which I recommend, but my friend goes to a gun range. She says that it helps and “nooooooo one gets hurt.” 

Post # 75
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I have GAD as well, and it really is awful to try and deal with. Every tiny thing becomes a massive issue, and half the time you’re worrying about the fact that you don’t even know what you’re worrying about. It sounds quite silly until you’re faced with being permanently in a state of panic…

As for your situation, take a deep breath. You say you’ve never even met FI’s uncle leading the suit debacle? Well, clearly he’s not an important part of your wedding. If he was only invited because you felt obliged since he’s family, then you can effectively cut him out of your plans, even if it’s just in your mind. Pretend he’s not coming. You don’t need to deal with someone who can’t understand what is and is not appropriate attire at a formal event. You are the bride – one of the two most important people at this wedding. He is an uncle who got an invite simply because of the family he was born into (or married into, God help his wife). You are the one who matters here, so disregard those who don’t.

I know how hard the stress gets, especially with an added mental disorder. It sucks. But if I can do it, you can do it, and I’m doing it, so you have to. 🙂

Post # 76
Hostess
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  It should pretty much go without saying. Unless it is a backyard casual BBQ wedding jeans are simply not appropriate. You wear jeans to the store, to the movies, some people to work…try on something else for a wedding.

I actually specified on our wedding website that we would prefer khakis and jeans not be worn. I even had a discussion with a friend of mine when she asked what she and her husband should wear. After having the no jeans discussion imagine my irritation when he showed up in blue jeans. Ugh! We had a formal wedding and he of course stuck out like crazy. She is a close friend and had to know how it would bother me, especially considering out conversation.

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