(Closed) NO you can't wear fucking jeans to my wedding. (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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Sugar bee

I’ve been married for over 26 years.  I have honestly forgotten what everyone was wearing at the wedding except for me, my husband and the minister. 

WHAT GUESTS WEAR AT A WEDDING IS UNIMPORTANT……UNLESS THEY TURN UP IN THE NUDE OR DRESSED AS VAMPIRES.

One might say that it would be particularly gracious of guests not to turn up looking wonderful.  They need to dress down so that the beauty of the bride and her outfit have no rivals. 

Think positively and just enjoy your day.

 

 

Post # 78
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@Julybride88: Maybe suggest slacks and a polo? It isn’t a suit and it is certainly not casual attire and thus will stick out less…

Post # 79
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Here’s the way I see it (without having read much of the rest of this thread): If they hadn’t of told you about their outfit choice, you wouldn’t have known and wouldn’t have even cared. If you saw it on the wedding day, you’d be too preoccupied with having a good time celebrating your marriage with someone you love (isn’t that what it’s all about anyways?) to even care what your guests were wearing. 

 

One of my grandpas is a mechanic and for as long as I can remember he has always worn jeans with suspenders and a NASCAR shirt. I’ve never seen him not wear it. I didn’t expect anything different on my wedding day, but he actually rented a tux and I was really surprised! 2 minutes after the ceremony, he kept the tux on but changed the white shirt and tie to a NASCAR t-shirt, and that’s the shirt he’s wearing in ALL our family photos. Did I care on the day? No. Do I care now? No. 

 

I totally understand that all the annoyances of planning a wedding get really overwhelming, but worrying about what your guests are wearing to your wedding, shouldn’t be high on your priority list, because like 

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@Supersleuth: said, she didn’t remember it 26 years later.

 

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Any self-respecting man should own a suit for occasions such as weddings and funerals. Come ON. I feel like today’s society is so lazy.

Post # 81
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Sugar bee

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@blushpinkbride:  

Any self-respecting man should own a spacesuit for occasions such as weddings and funerals. Come ON. I feel like today’s society is so lazy.

Apologies.  Just playing with words.  🙂

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  You are totally not a shitty person.

Wedding planning is STRESSFUL school is STRESSFUL life is STRESSFUL.

I don’t understand why it immidiately catgorizees you as a bridezilla just because you have a specific view of YOUR wedding. 

I think every bride and groom should have the wedding that they want and that goes from simple back-yard bbqs to super elaborate weddings. 

There is nothing wrong with wanting men to wear jackets, we are having the same dress-code at our wedding. The only exception we made was for a friend who is going to be 8 1/2 months pregnant. She wants to wear stretch pants with a nice top and I was like hey at 8 1/2 months pregnant you just wear whatever you want. Other than that though I want people dressed nicely. 

My wedding is a week before yours and at this point I feel pretty ready to snap lol I totally  understand how you feel. 

 

Post # 83
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  I feel you.  I’ve been squashing my inner bridezilla as well – for the most part.  But the stress is starting to get to me and I feel an explosion coming sometime between now and May.

Breathe, get yourself a stiff drink, and a punching bag with faces of the people who are pissing you off 🙂

Post # 84
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Im curious if you get this stressed and have anxiety disorders…..why did you plan a wedding for the middle of a college semester? 

I had 2 people insist on wearing jeans in the months leading up to the wedding. A guest’s SO and my first cousin. My cousin still showed up in Timberland boots. Out of over 150 guests it really didn’t matter on that day! Take a deep breath and it will be over soon because these issues aren’t that serious. Some people just don’t get it (or they really just don’t care).

Post # 85
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Correct me if I am wrong… but it doesn’t sound like anyone is actually wearing jeans – you are just upset that this guest won’t have a dress jacket. You kind of seem to be jumping the gun as no one seemed to mention jeans at all – it is entirely possible the guest owns a nice pair of pants.

In all perspective I don’t think not having a dress jacket is that big of a deal – I’ve been to weddings were not a single guest wore a dress jacket but had a nice tie and dress shirt.

I just really think it is expecting a lot unless it is a relatively rich family. My Fiance for example has never owned a suit/dress jacket but has still gone to weddings looking appropriate, he can’t afford the cost of going out to get a jacket to wear.

Really if your guest is cold he’ll likely just grin and bear it rather than whipping out some colorful jacket to keep warm.

Post # 87
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I feel your pain! I had a bridesmaid ask if she could just wear flip-flops!! Then my stepmother (who I don’t get along with) informed me she’ll be wearing a white lace dress!! I lost my shit.

Post # 88
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@Supersleuth:  My post was in no way directed toward you, I didn’t even read anyone else’s replies.

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel for you!!!

I was obligated to invite my 21 year old cousin to my wedding and graciously even entended her a plus one for her boyfriend (whom I had never met). I thought I was being nice. Well, first she lost her RSVP, then told my grandma to tell me that they could both come, then they couldn’t, then they could again, then he couldn’t and she would be there by herself. So she came to the ceremony and her boyfriend ended up showing up at the reception anways in CAMO shorts, CAMO shorts and a baseball hat. This was a $200/pp, very formal wedding. Ughh. And because of where they were sitting he is in the background of alot of the dancing pictures. Gross. Never again.

 

Post # 90
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@Sea_Ashley:  THAT SUCKS!

She would not be invited to anything of mine again.  21 is young but old enough to know better.

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