(Closed) No, you do not have a year to give a gift

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA

I’m not sure about you, but we had lots of summer weddings, and with the expenses in attending and giving gifts, we had to postpone some gifting to later in the year. 

We received a wedding present this past month, which is over a year old. Was it less special? No… in fact, I much appreciated that we were still in their thoughts. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would agree…I think it would be fun to get a few gifts here and there after the wedding. I think I might enjoy them more because I wouldn’t be so overwhelmed by too many packages to open, thank you cards to write, etc.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I don’t think anything is stopping you from buying the rest of the stuff on your registry.  A gift giver does not need to buy from your registry, nor would I think they would think you would keep the registry open.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with Lemon, I am at the point where all my friends are getting married, back to back to back and with travel to all these weddings and planning our own, we can’t afford to give a gift right away.  So please try to understand that everyone has a different financial situation.

Post # 8
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Worker bee

1. They probably don’t have your gift, they just don’t want to tell you that. Come on, I think we’ve all told the birthday girl/boy at least once, "oh shoot, I left your gift at home!"

2. Yes they do have a year to give you a gift, according to etiquette. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If they have your gift, it sounds like their trying to get a rise out of you!  I agree with Lemon that it’s a nice gesture, whenever the gift is sent!

Post # 10
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Newbee

Uh no, waiting up to a year to give a gift is extremely POOR etiquette.  Google Emily Post et al.  Whoever started that rumor was just lazy, and a lot of people are capitalizing on it.  Time people get with it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

If people keep saying that, they are maybe just terminal procrastinators.  Or they didn’t really buy you a gift.  We had several gifts from local friends that took a few weeks to make it to our house.  They didn’t bring them to the wedding because they were very large and heavy.  They didn’t have them delivered because they wanted to give them in person.  And we were busy, and had a hard time hooking up, so did hear several times "We have to bring your present over – when is a good time?"  We also got a couple of late cards with gift cards, where people said "This has been sitting on my dining room table for weeks waiting to be mailed!  Sorry so late…"  Although I seriously can’t criticize.  I still own little things that I bought for friends or family for Christmas years ago, and then misplaced and didn’t find until much later – or forgot about entirely until months later.  I pay all my bills online because otherwise I’m likely to misplace the envelopes and just not get them mailed.  So it does happen.

Although I would go ahead and complete your registries yourself.  If you get duplicate something, you can just return one or the other.  (Probably the other, if your friends really do wait a year to give you the present!)

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m pretty sure that it’s Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette that says 1 year, and I also used to intern at Bride’s, and I’ve always gone with the 1-year thing.  I think it’s a courtesy for the guests, actually – helps with balancing budget, depending on when weddings/holidays fall throughout the year and destinations weddings etc.

 However, pure procrastinators are annoying, agreed!

Post # 13
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Newbee

How soon should I send a gift?
Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. In some regions gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to a current rumor that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/tips/wedding_gifts.htm

 

Post # 14
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Newbee

From the Emily post institute:

<h3>How soon should I send a gift? </h3>

Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. In some regions gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to a current rumor that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.

 

That being said, I think a gift is nice whenever it arrives (although I don’t expect everyone to bring one!)  I understand why you may feel frustrated by people saying "I have a year-ha!" all the time though.  :/  Just try to enjoy your married life and "get on with it" as you said–go ahead and send thank yous for coming so you can feel like you completed that task and it’s not hanging over you.  Complete your registry, decorate your home, and enjoy your hubby!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Along the same lines, I hate that people think it’s OK to postpone sending thank-you notes for a year too.  I think waiting longer than a month is rude.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Lina, according to our beloved Emily Post, the bride and groom have 3 months to send a thank you note for your gift.  Personally, I have been working on a photo collage thank you card (since we got back from our honeymoon) and I only now got our proofs back from our photographer (2 months later) to add to it!

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